Hi,
So I have this coworker/friend and all last year it was kind of flirty, really good vibes/chemistry, but I felt like I was always the one initiating our interactions. Even after discussing this with him last year, he said he's not great at communicating, even with his childhood friends. So, at the beginning of this year, I decided to stop reaching out as much, no reach outs on his end, and we've only seen each other a few times since then. I thought about him a lot less, which was freeing. However, at a recent party, I heard from some people that he's upset with me, so I went up and talked to him and he is indeed mad at me for being cold and disrespectful (mind you we've seen each other in professional settings and I just don't make eye contact), but we didn't resolve much.
I feel like my decision to pull back is still correct, as it's disheartening to put effort into a one-sided relationship. Now I'm kind of upset because I don't understand how he can be mad at me for not talking to him when he doesn't make an effort. Has anyone else experienced something like this?
So I have this coworker/friend and all last year it was kind of flirty, really good vibes/chemistry, but I felt like I was always the one initiating our interactions. Even after discussing this with him last year, he said he's not great at communicating, even with his childhood friends. So, at the beginning of this year, I decided to stop reaching out as much, no reach outs on his end, and we've only seen each other a few times since then. I thought about him a lot less, which was freeing. However, at a recent party, I heard from some people that he's upset with me, so I went up and talked to him and he is indeed mad at me for being cold and disrespectful (mind you we've seen each other in professional settings and I just don't make eye contact), but we didn't resolve much.
I feel like my decision to pull back is still correct, as it's disheartening to put effort into a one-sided relationship. Now I'm kind of upset because I don't understand how he can be mad at me for not talking to him when he doesn't make an effort. Has anyone else experienced something like this?