my str8 gym crush is “killing me”

[HunkReinolds]

Just got back home after spending the most amazing day with him! Unfortunately he has to work very early tomorrow so we couldn’t spend the night, but thats ok. At least it gives me some time to update you all on what happened since our last time (I was dying to tell you guys lol)

so basically he texted me earlier today asking if everything was ok. I was right, he noticed how awkward I had reacted after our hook up on Friday night. I saw this as an opportunity to have a straight conversation with him (I realize how soon this might seem, but I couldn’t help it. I had been thinking A LOT about my feelings yesterday, and it was killing me to the point the only way was telling him). I didn’t want to have that kind of conversation over the phone so I asked if we could meet so we could talk. He agreed so I went to his place.

Bottom line: the way I reacted had him thinking somehow he had screwed up his first time. Man, that made me hate myself so much. The look on his face once I got there was killing me, he looked very worried. Before I even began talking, he went ahead and started apologizing for Friday night, thinking he had done something wrong. I was so glad I decided to meet him and talk, otherwise he would‘ve kept feeling bad about himself.

All I could do was stop him and just spill everything I had to say: how Friday night was the most amazing night of my life, how I feel our connection got deeper over the past few weeks, how much I love having him around, and how I feel about myself when I’m with him, that he made me a better man. The way he breathed heavily as I was hugging him, kind of like a relief, was everything I could ask for lol. then he started telling me how he agreed with everything I told him, how he feels the same and how much of a relief all that was. He even thanked me for being there for him throughout his break up. Somebody pinch me!

after that spent the whole afternoon cleaning his BMW and installing this new device he got to boost the car performance. Then we took it for a test drive, it was really nice. After that we grabbed some dinner and went back to his place to fool around for a bit.

I still can’t believe this is all happening! Again, it looks like a dream. Am I really ungrateful and just dumb to be extremely afraid of losing all of this? I feel like I have no reason to be insecure towards him, specially after today. But still I get this fear of losing it all. is it normal? Has any of you ever felt this? Help!

 

[j.guy94]

Hey, I'm just a rando who followed your story, but I saw you haven't gotten any answer yet, so I'll chime in lol

Honestly, I don't think you're dumb nor ungrateful, you just found someone you don't wanna lose, I guess you can't get more human than that hahaha Also, iirc, neither of you is out, it's all very fresh (your first post wasn't even a full month ago) AND a lot of stuff has been happening in succession, so I get it that it can be intimidating and overwhelming rn, it's truly and completely ok to feel anxious and afraid at first (and generally feeling a lot of stuff all at once), I'm sure it will be better and easier with time!

As a side note, I'm positive many of us have been living your experience vicariously, but don't feel afraid to dial down on the details as much as you want, you don't owe us anything (I might get mobbed for saying this lol). I'm not trying to shame you or anything like that, but it sounds like you might have a budding love relationship on your hands and you don't have to share anything you don't feel comfortable sharing Good luck and stay strong!

 

[HunkReinolds]

Hey, I'm just a rando who followed your story, but I saw you haven't gotten any answer yet, so I'll chime in lol

Honestly, I don't think you're dumb nor ungrateful, you just found someone you don't wanna lose, I guess you can't get more human than that hahaha Also, iirc, neither of you is out, it's all very fresh (your first post wasn't even a full month ago) AND a lot of stuff has been happening in succession, so I get it that it can be intimidating and overwhelming rn, it's truly and completely ok to feel anxious and afraid at first (and generally feeling a lot of stuff all at once), I'm sure it will be better and easier with time!

As a side note, I'm positive many of us have been living your experience vicariously, but don't feel afraid to dial down on the details as much as you want, you don't owe us anything (I might get mobbed for saying this lol). I'm not trying to shame you or anything like that, but it sounds like you might have a budding love relationship on your hands and you don't have to share anything you don't feel comfortable sharing Good luck and stay strong!

Thanks! For the past few days I’ve got to think a lot about what’s going on, and now I can see things clearer. Me and him are having such a great time that I don’t need to keep stressing over things that might or might not happen. Imma just live the present and be excited for what the future eventually brings.

Also, about the things and details that I share, I’m very aware of that, and honestly posting here helps me vent and have someone to celebrate with, you know? As I mentioned before, I’m not openly bi, and I’ve only got like 2 friends who know about it, so having this space to share where ppl might be going thru the same stuff, is great! But I see what you mean, and I really appreciate it!

 

[PussyStretcher]

I am not gay,but the same theory applies. Men typically take longer to reach a point where they are ready to settle down. Both of you are at that point in your life where both of you want a relationship. You are scared because you have met someone that you click with and feel comfortable just hanging out with. Just take it one day at a time. Get to know each other on a deeper level as to likes, dislikes, and hobbies. Working out together is a great way to push each other to develop the body each of you want. As guys, remember you need alone time and there is nothing wrong with that. As a guy I am not good at expressing my feelings, but I have gotten better. Sit down and have a deep conversation telling him exactly how you feel and you want to be with him.

 

[deleted22033391]

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I would really like to show you all how hot he is, but I can’t expose him and myself like that, unfortunately. At least not at moment.

Thanks! For the past few days I’ve got to think a lot about what’s going on, and now I can see things clearer. Me and him are having such a great time that I don’t need to keep stressing over things that might or might not happen. Imma just live the present and be excited for what the future eventually brings.

Also, about the things and details that I share, I’m very aware of that, and honestly posting here helps me vent and have someone to celebrate with, you know? As I mentioned before, I’m not openly bi, and I’ve only got like 2 friends who know about it, so having this space to share where ppl might be going thru the same stuff, is great! But I see what you mean, and I really appreciate it!

Any update ?

 

[deleted22033391]

Thanks! For the past few days I’ve got to think a lot about what’s going on, and now I can see things clearer. Me and him are having such a great time that I don’t need to keep stressing over things that might or might not happen. Imma just live the present and be excited for what the future eventually brings.

Also, about the things and details that I share, I’m very aware of that, and honestly posting here helps me vent and have someone to celebrate with, you know? As I mentioned before, I’m not openly bi, and I’ve only got like 2 friends who know about it, so having this space to share where ppl might be going thru the same stuff, is great! But I see what you mean, and I really appreciate it!

Any update?

 

[sought]

I am not gay,but the same theory applies. Men typically take longer to reach a point where they are ready to settle down. Both of you are at that point in your life where both of you want a relationship. You are scared because you have met someone that you click with and feel comfortable just hanging out with. Just take it one day at a time. Get to know each other on a deeper level as to likes, dislikes, and hobbies. Working out together is a great way to push each other to develop the body each of you want. As guys, remember you need alone time and there is nothing wrong with that. As a guy I am not good at expressing my feelings, but I have gotten better. Sit down and have a deep conversation telling him exactly how you feel and you want to be with him.

Are you a man?

 

[clif]

I have a massive crush on this straight guy in my gym, and I’ve been discussing this issue with some members in other related threads, but I decided to create a separate thread for this matter since it’s escalating really quick (you guys gave me the courage to engage lol).

I’ll be posting here what have happened so far and any new updates as well. I really appreciate any advices and support of people who have been in this kinds of situation before.

ok so here we go.

There a guy at my gym we talk sometimes we both work out early mornings, very good looking guy he always wears these mesh shorts with regular boxers you could see everything I spotted him once, man that got me brick hard looking at that dick print I think he does it on purpose I don't want to fuck him but I will like to bust with him.

 

[Luvcutdick]

I agree. It was actually at the gym a lot of years ago that I discovered myself as a bisexual.

I have known I was "bi-sexual" from the time I was 19 y.o. Today, with trends as they are, I prefer to say "I am sexually fluid".

Years ago being "bisexual" was about the worst label to get. Today, I am comfortable with who I am and being "sexually fluid". My life is much richer for it.

 

[PussyStretcher]

Are you a man?

Yes. Married dad

 

[Wowzaaa101]

Oh my goodness. I don’t honestly know how I stumbled upon your thread, but I’ve spent the entire last hour reading every single post. It’s so hot and I’m here for it! I don’t know how much more you’re going to update us as your situation progresses, but I’m happy you’ve let us know this much. I think you should follow your heart and if you decide you want to come out together, you definitely should. I dated my boyfriend for about a year and a half while closeted. He wasn’t, but I was, and it was terrible. I always felt so bad for him. We broke up twice and then after not being together for a year, we tried for a third time. I decided to come out and be my true self because he makes me happy and I love him. It was not fair to hide our love. To him or to myself. Anyway, we are so happy now, and it’s been over 5 years in total. My only regret is not coming out sooner. Definitely don’t rush it. It’s a huge risk you’re taking and so many people are so against homosexuality, which is so sad..but when you find the person you love, it’s amazing being so happy.
Anyway, I look forward to more updates, and wish you the best of luck!

 

[HunkReinolds]

A lot of things have happened since my last update, so here we go!

we’ve been spending a lot of time together lately, doing stuff we both like and finding out new things as well. He recently told me he used to surf while he was younger so I asked him to teach me and it’s been going great. I even got my own surfboard and I feel like this can really become one of my hobbies! Also I love being a part of something he’s excited about. Things like this are making us really close, and I couldn’t ask for anything more.

last week I had this work thing where I had to go out of town for a few days to go to this conference. This was the first time we would be apart for so long since we first hooked up. It kinda bummed me out but I couldn’t get out of it, so I ended up going. He kept texting me for the whole time I was there, asking how it was, that was really nice. And then at the last day, he did this thing that really surprised me. At some point during the evening, while I was already in my hotel room, he sent me this very hot pic of himself, it was really sexy (and extremely unexpected, he’d never done that before). Then a few minutes later, the front desk called my room saying I had something delivered for me. I thought it was something related to my job so I went there to pick it up. As I was heading to the lobby, walking down this very long hallway, he showed up out of nowhere at the other end of the hall. For a second, I couldn’t believe he was there. Seeing him like that, out of the blue, was incredible! And how sneaky of him, to send me that pic and then showing up moments later, he was teasing me hard and he knew what he was doing! We ended up having the most amazing night

In the next morning we drove back to town together, our second road trip! As he was driving, he did this really hot thing, where he got my hand and put it over his crotch. That was fire! Idk what happens to us, when we’re in the car together we get really horned up lol

Anyway, after every day I spend with him I’ve been realizing there’s no reason for me to feel insecure like I’ve mentioned in the last post. He’s here for the same reason as I am, we love being with each other and thats what matters for now. Him showing up like that in my hotel just proved how much he’s enjoying all of this too.

Side note, and I’ve mention this before, I’ve been realizing that being in a relationship with a guy instead of a girl definitely has its perks. We share a lot of the same interests, we absolutely love working out together, it’s something that we really look forward every day! Also, we go through the same kinds of stuff and this makes everything more exciting and interesting. it just clicks, you know? at least it’s what I feel!

Anyways, I’d like to mention (again) how thankful I am for everyone who takes their time to post something nice here. I really appreciate all the support, you’re all amazing!!

 

[j.guy94]

That's so sweet, I'm happy for you guys! And I'm loving that you're getting more confident and, apparently, more relaxed with the whole thing! I wish you guys the best!

 

[crzyprsn18]

This thread is like one big movie script omg I’m too invested

 

[HunkReinolds]

Hold on to something, this is going to be a bumpy update.

I wanted to do something to surprise him like he did to me last week in the hotel. He’s been complaining frequently about how stressed he’s been with some work related shit, so yesterday I had this idea of booking a day for him on this really fancy spa (he had mentioned before how much he likes doing this from time to time, and it was perfect since he was going to have the day off).

anyways, I took him there and he enjoyed it a lot. His surprised face was really cute when he found out, he was very thankful. The place was really nice and expensive, so I guess it was an amazing experience. once he got back from the spa, I could see how relaxed he was, It was actually funny lol. When I asked him how it was, he started telling me about all this kinds of massages they offer there, then he mentioned this specific one he got from a male professional. He told me back on his “straight” days, he had been massaged several times by men but he felt absolutely no tension, sexwise. Then he mentioned how it was different this time. He said the masseur was a very attractive and strong man who seemed to be in his late 20s, and how it was kinda weird feeling this for the first time.

At first my mind was like “why are you telling me this?”, it kinda freaked me out, I gotta say. But then as the conversation continued, he started talking about his taste in men, and asking what I usually admire in a man as well. This definitely took me by surprise. He felt very comfortable talking about this with me, I could feel that. That was a very nice conversation we had. We both got to share a lot of stuff about ourselves. Then at some point, the subject turned to porn. He mentioned how it was when he first started browsing thru gay porn, who are his favorite porn stars and onlyfans accounts. I took the opportunity to share some of my interests as well.

sooo, everything was fine at that point. But then he suddenly said “do you know this website, lpsg?” I almost passed out. Of course this was about to happen, I mean almost every man who are interested in man knows about LPSG! Anyways, I did my best to continue talking as naturally as possible and hear what he was saying. He was talking about how it’s easy to find stuff about almost every onlyfans account in LSPG, and how amazing the website is, with the all the forums and support from guys going thru the same stuff as him. He said he spent almost an entire day browsing thru the website when he found out about it a couple of days ago.

anyways. We were there, having this most amazing, blunt, honest conversation. He felt comfortable sharing some very deep intimate stuff with me, things he probably never let out before. I just felt I had to be honest as well. it just felt right, you know? I don't know where I got courage from, but I ended up telling him everything about this thread (better for him to find out from me than stumbling on this thread out of the sudden, that was my thought).

Long story short, I’m in love with this man. He’s incredible in every single way, and he keeps surprising me. Of course he got very confused once I finished talking, so I gave him some time to process it all, I left him by himself for an entire hour so he could read the whole thread.

Once I got back home, he wasn’t in the living room. I kinda panicked, thinking he’d took off or something. Then I went to my bedroom and there he was. His phone was laying on the bed and he just stared at me for a couple of seconds. I couldn’t say anything, I completely freaked out. But then he just walked towards me and kissed me. That moment. That’s definitely something I’ll never forget. The way he was gently touching me was different from any other interaction we ever had before.

I still can’t believe it. I remember he said “it was like taking a trip inside your mind” or something, and “being able to see things from your point of view”. Then he mentioned how all the updates reminded him of how it was exciting in the beginning when we used to be just gym buddies, more than a month ago. then he kept thanking me for the opportunity to have this all registered somehow. Anyways. As if I wasn’t already at cloud nine, he just said “oh, and don’t worry about us, I’m not going anywhere“.

I don’t know what the future holds for me and him, but I know it’s something amazing. I’m not afraid to say this again, I’m completely in love with that man!! Now he finally knows about all of this and I couldn’t be happier. I asked him if the fact that the thread was public bothered him and he said no. He even encouraged me to keep posting, for the sake of making it a record for us and also for the support of you guys, as long as it keeps our identities private, of course. And who knows, maybe someday he feels like posting something here too (if you’re reading this, no pressure babe!)

 

[j.guy94]

mind = blown

 

[groupshowers]

Hold on to something, this is going to be a bumpy update.

I wanted to do something to surprise him like he did to me last week in the hotel. He’s been complaining frequently about how stressed he’s been with some work related shit, so yesterday I had this idea of booking a day for him on this really fancy spa (he had mentioned before how much he likes doing this from time to time, and it was perfect since he was going to have the day off).

anyways, I took him there and he enjoyed it a lot. His surprised face was really cute when he found out, he was very thankful. The place was really nice and expensive, so I guess it was an amazing experience. once he got back from the spa, I could see how relaxed he was, It was actually funny lol. When I asked him how it was, he started telling me about all this kinds of massages they offer there, then he mentioned this specific one he got from a male professional. He told me back on his “straight” days, he had been massaged several times by men but he felt absolutely no tension, sexwise. Then he mentioned how it was different this time. He said the masseur was a very attractive and strong man who seemed to be in his late 20s, and how it was kinda weird feeling this for the first time.

At first my mind was like “why are you telling me this?”, it kinda freaked me out, I gotta say. But then as the conversation continued, he started talking about his taste in men, and asking what I usually admire in a man as well. This definitely took me by surprise. He felt very comfortable talking about this with me, I could feel that. That was a very nice conversation we had. We both got to share a lot of stuff about ourselves. Then at some point, the subject turned to porn. He mentioned how it was when he first started browsing thru gay porn, who are his favorite porn stars and onlyfans accounts. I took the opportunity to share some of my interests as well.

sooo, everything was fine at that point. But then he suddenly said “do you know this website, lpsg?” I almost passed out. Of course this was about to happen, I mean almost every man who are interested in man knows about LPSG! Anyways, I did my best to continue talking as naturally as possible and hear what he was saying. He was talking about how it’s easy to find stuff about almost every onlyfans account in LSPG, and how amazing the website is, with the all the forums and support from guys going thru the same stuff as him. He said he spent almost an entire day browsing thru the website when he found out about it a couple of days ago.

anyways. We were there, having this most amazing, blunt, honest conversation. He felt comfortable sharing some very deep intimate stuff with me, things he probably never let out before. I just felt I had to be honest as well. it just felt right, you know? I don't know where I got courage from, but I ended up telling him everything about this thread (better for him to find out from me than stumbling on this thread out of the sudden, that was my thought).

Long story short, I’m in love with this man. He’s incredible in every single way, and he keeps surprising me. Of course he got very confused once I finished talking, so I gave him some time to process it all, I left him by himself for an entire hour so he could read the whole thread.

Once I got back home, he wasn’t in the living room. I kinda panicked, thinking he’d took off or something. Then I went to my bedroom and there he was. His phone was laying on the bed and he just stared at me for a couple of seconds. I couldn’t say anything, I completely freaked out. But then he just walked towards me and kissed me. That moment. That’s definitely something I’ll never forget. The way he was gently touching me was different from any other interaction we ever had before.

I still can’t believe it. I remember he said “it was like taking a trip inside your mind” or something, and “being able to see things from your point of view”. Then he mentioned how all the updates reminded him of how it was exciting in the beginning when we used to be just gym buddies, more than a month ago. then he kept thanking me for the opportunity to have this all registered somehow. Anyways. As if I wasn’t already at cloud nine, he just said “oh, and don’t worry about us, I’m not going anywhere“.

I don’t know what the future holds for me and him, but I know it’s something amazing. I’m not afraid to say this again, I’m completely in love with that man!! Now he finally knows about all of this and I couldn’t be happier. I asked him if the fact that the thread was public bothered him and he said no. He even encouraged me to keep posting, for the sake of making it a record for us and also for the support of you guys, as long as it keeps our identities private, of course. And who knows, maybe someday he feels like posting something here too (if you’re reading this, no pressure babe!)

You continually take chances and congratulations that you keep winning with this man!

 

[leanbeef]

Since he knows about this thread ask him if you can post his picture.

 

[Grapplr16]

Since he knows about this thread ask him if you can post his picture.

Or better yet, a picture of the two of you.

 

[dreamer20]

Now he knows about this thread and I couldn’t be happier. He encouraged me to keep posting, as long as our identities <are kept> private..

^^Per the above post: there will be no pictures @leanbeef and @Grapplr16. However, as you two are so keen to see pictures, feel free to share pictures of yourselves here: Show Off