I am a bisexual guy and I have this "straight" married friend (he does not know I am bisexual). We've been friends for less than a year and have gotten very close. Over this time, he has made several commemts which makes me wonder if he was gay but does not know it.
Firstly, he keeps on talking to me about the issues he has with his wife who he jas been married to for only 2 months. At the end of each conversation, he always says that he'd rather be gay and be with a guy as his lofe would be easier. At one point, I randomly commented about his wife being complicated and he suddemly tells me that if me and him were in a gay relationship or married, his life would be so much easier. Overall, he always says that its easier being with me than with his wife.
Secondly, whenever we go drinking, just him and I, he frequently would end the night by saying that he has to go home now ptherwise his wife will think we were in a gay relationship.
Thirdly, at his bachelors party, we both were super drunk and got back to our AirBnB. We all had separate rooms but he asked if he could stay with me in my room (we had separate beds). Whats more is that, as we were going to bed, he started asking me about my threesome with 2 women. I simply told him the story of how I met both of them and ended up with them. However, he started prying and asking me about what they did to me, who was on top, whonwas sucking me, and who I came on and where did I cum. It was a bit awkward but I was too drunk to really care much then. I couldnt see of je was hard either as it was too dark.
The above conversation came up 2 other times we were drunk as well and he kept on prying on that sexual encounter and about wanting me to describe it in detail.
Fourth, there were several instances where we were both drunk while his wife was away, and he sked me to stay over and sleep in his bed with him though I said I was fine with the couch. Nothing happened though.
There was also one instance whike we were drunk (again) and he was sitting in hos couch and I was standing and he kept on telling me to sit and asking if I was afraid to sit because he might 'rape' me. He kept om repeating it until I actually sat down. Again, nothing happened.
Another instance, the two of us were drunknonce again and he wanted to know the type of porn I watched and wanted me to describe it.
Lastly, there are a few other things which make me think he is gay... like, he talks abput his ass being sore, he is very self conscious of his weight, he tries tonprove to me he was more in shape omce by sharing shirtless pics, he keeps on saying how amazing I am and wishes he were like me, he always is the first person to ping me during the day amd he pings me a lot (we work together) and he texts me a lot as well, and he is also a very emotional and dramatic guy. We also hang out a lot on a one on one basis.
Now... I know I talked a lot about how we were always drunk, and lately he hasnt wanted to drink with me and comes up with a lot of excuses (that he is drinking too much already with his wife, that he has tonlose weight, etc). But he still calls me while he is drinking alone sometimes or he still drinks with his wife.... he just doesnt want to drink with me anymore. I find this a jit strange now because it makes me wonder if he is starting to feel something that he never realised was there, hence he has started avoiding being drunk alone with me.
Soo... is he potentially gay or bi? There are so many signs yet at the same time, I have straight friends that would be interested in my sex life (but not to the detail he wants) or I slept next to in bed (but because we had no other choice). A part of me still believes he is straight because he definitely acts straight and is married (and maybe he is and thats fine) bit there are so many signs as well that he might be gay or at least, bi.
Firstly, he keeps on talking to me about the issues he has with his wife who he jas been married to for only 2 months. At the end of each conversation, he always says that he'd rather be gay and be with a guy as his lofe would be easier. At one point, I randomly commented about his wife being complicated and he suddemly tells me that if me and him were in a gay relationship or married, his life would be so much easier. Overall, he always says that its easier being with me than with his wife.
Secondly, whenever we go drinking, just him and I, he frequently would end the night by saying that he has to go home now ptherwise his wife will think we were in a gay relationship.
Thirdly, at his bachelors party, we both were super drunk and got back to our AirBnB. We all had separate rooms but he asked if he could stay with me in my room (we had separate beds). Whats more is that, as we were going to bed, he started asking me about my threesome with 2 women. I simply told him the story of how I met both of them and ended up with them. However, he started prying and asking me about what they did to me, who was on top, whonwas sucking me, and who I came on and where did I cum. It was a bit awkward but I was too drunk to really care much then. I couldnt see of je was hard either as it was too dark.
The above conversation came up 2 other times we were drunk as well and he kept on prying on that sexual encounter and about wanting me to describe it in detail.
Fourth, there were several instances where we were both drunk while his wife was away, and he sked me to stay over and sleep in his bed with him though I said I was fine with the couch. Nothing happened though.
There was also one instance whike we were drunk (again) and he was sitting in hos couch and I was standing and he kept on telling me to sit and asking if I was afraid to sit because he might 'rape' me. He kept om repeating it until I actually sat down. Again, nothing happened.
Another instance, the two of us were drunknonce again and he wanted to know the type of porn I watched and wanted me to describe it.
Lastly, there are a few other things which make me think he is gay... like, he talks abput his ass being sore, he is very self conscious of his weight, he tries tonprove to me he was more in shape omce by sharing shirtless pics, he keeps on saying how amazing I am and wishes he were like me, he always is the first person to ping me during the day amd he pings me a lot (we work together) and he texts me a lot as well, and he is also a very emotional and dramatic guy. We also hang out a lot on a one on one basis.
Now... I know I talked a lot about how we were always drunk, and lately he hasnt wanted to drink with me and comes up with a lot of excuses (that he is drinking too much already with his wife, that he has tonlose weight, etc). But he still calls me while he is drinking alone sometimes or he still drinks with his wife.... he just doesnt want to drink with me anymore. I find this a jit strange now because it makes me wonder if he is starting to feel something that he never realised was there, hence he has started avoiding being drunk alone with me.
Soo... is he potentially gay or bi? There are so many signs yet at the same time, I have straight friends that would be interested in my sex life (but not to the detail he wants) or I slept next to in bed (but because we had no other choice). A part of me still believes he is straight because he definitely acts straight and is married (and maybe he is and thats fine) bit there are so many signs as well that he might be gay or at least, bi.
