Is it True?

[Nomebear]

Growing up in a rural, farming and ranching community that was somewhat isolated from civilization, it was accommodating straight men who provided sex outlets. Women were expected to be virgins when they married, and this worked in my favor. People had many hangups around sex because of religion, that it forced men into relationships with other men, and this is still happening today.

When one is "broke in" on straight men, sex with openly active gay men is free and easy and without challenges.

 

[Mister2101]

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[WilliamG]

I haven't done research into the matter as I don't care enough to, but I do wonder if there is a level of curiosity that both genders have regarding each other and same sex experiences. When I was younger, it was easy to do the whole "I'll show you mine if you show me yours" thing and this happened with me on numerous occasions with both me suggesting it, or be being asked.

I am not entirely sure if I would classify this as bi curious, or just curiosity towards our anatomy. I suspect women have easily had this similar experience among themselves as well.

To me, bi curious doesn't just mean doing something sexual with with the same gender, but to be outright sexually aroused by it, and to sexually crave it as well.

From the online world... It's all over the place. I have seen. "Straight curious", "Bi curious", and just "Bi". For some it's defined by their "romantic involvement" (or lack of like me). It's all over the place. That said, there are some that are annoyed by those they say they are "bi curious" because they feel they are not accepting "the truth" that they are simple "bi".

As far as women... To be fair, only the ladies can qualify their "labels", I sure won't. But I feel that there's always been a double standard when it comes to same sex hookups for women vs men. At least that's how it was 30+ years ago. But it's all good to me!

 

[Robert Dole]

A trusted straight friend who remodeled houses for me pulled me aside and began asking questions about living a life as a gay man, what all I did when having sex with a man. My friend is a big, burly, hairy man, but he's never intimidating. I'm comfortable with myself, but Walter started asking some very personal questions. So, I figured he needed answers, and I would do my best to answer his questions.

I've never known Walter in any other way than as a totally straight male. He wanted details. How do you do this? How do you do that? How do you prepare yourself before taking a cock up your ass? What does it feel like? What does cum taste like? What's the proper etiquette with a partner? After what seemed like a thousand questions and an afternoon, Walter seemed to be satisfied with my answers, and didn't flinch or appear to be shocked by any of my descriptions.

Later in the week, Walter took me to coffee. My first thoughts were, "Oh no! Not more questions." He looked me in the eye and told me that he was blessed to have me as a friend because he desperately needed someone whom he trusted. It seems that he took the information and had a talk with his gorgeous 15-year-old son, whom he's certain is gay. Deeply concerned, Walter had a "gay" birds and the bees' discussion on what his son may experience if and when he does make the decision to come out.

Being highly adept at home remodeling, Walter demolished his son's closet door. I wished that my dad had been like Walter. Also, I have a feeling that he's not done with me.

My neighbor has done much the same with me, I know his son is gay but he just suspects. He has become very curious since we had our first chat about it all, and eventually admitted he was interested and asked me to show him.
He certainly responded well to my blowjob and has been back on a daily basis, he wasn't so sure about returning the favor to start but often initiates now and has taken to being rimmed..

 

[JD_002]

I don't know honestly, though I tend to find and attract those curious, cause the moment we get acquainted and more comfortable with each other they turn up a notch the homoerotic behavior.

 

[Nomebear]

My neighbor has done much the same with me, I know his son is gay but he just suspects. He has become very curious since we had our first chat about it all, and eventually admitted he was interested and asked me to show him.
He certainly responded well to my blowjob and has been back on a daily basis, he wasn't so sure about returning the favor to start but often initiates now and has taken to being rimmed..

Wow! That sounds really nice. I would certainly be open to it if my buddy made overtures. He's a hunky man, and divorced. I've not seen heard him mention women, so maybe there's more forthcoming.

 

[Robert Dole]

Wow! That sounds really nice. I would certainly be open to it if my buddy made overtures. He's a hunky man, and divorced. I've not seen heard him mention women, so maybe there's more forthcoming.

Initially I had some misgivings about it (and still have being an old neighbor...) but it is obviously something that has been on his mind for a while. I haven't encouraged or discouraged him discussing it with me, just answered his questions and listened- including the one about giving him a blowjob (yes), anal (not right away) and what else feels good (rimming?).
Easter project together is a rimming seat, I told him to google it and he came back all enthused about it. It will be a new one for me too, something I've often wondered about...

 

[elklindoxxx]

I am of the belief that most (all?) men are bi-curious. They have thought about sex with a man, and are a little bit turned on by the thought. do you agree with that?

Do you believe that once a man tries sex with another man--sucked a cock; anal penetration; made love---that there's a good chance that their curiosity will grow stronger, and they will seek more bi/gay experiences?

Before my 1st sexual encounter with another man (which was super hot, erotic, and pleasurable); he said to me that once I had felt and tasted another man's cock in my mouth and inside my ass, that I would be "hooked." I think he was right!! Thoughts?

I only speak for myself and I've always liked males ever since I could imagine. However, I find it really hard to believe what you suggest is true.

So I think your question should be posted on the "ask a straight man" forum. See what they think....

 

[ILoveGames48]

I won’t sit here and say all men are bisexual or bisexual curious.. I think it’s funny how there’s no difference in a straight man’s asshole or a gay man’s..

I have been in situations where be jerking off with a buddy while watching straight porn.. and he’d want to stroke my cock just to see what another cock would feel like in his hand..

Then weeks later it became wonder what tasted like ..


He then begins talking about the rimming a man’s ass and stuff like that .. said he couldn’t see himself doing that but he can see himself fucking a guys ass .. and when he slides it inside me he’d be like .. holy fuck.. saying that feels better than what he thought it would..

Then one night on my hands and knees waiting for him to screw me again.. he shocks me by running his tongue over my hole.. a few times .. doesn’t say a word as he kept on licking and fingering my hole .. then fucks me..

After getting done he’d tell me while he was rimming my ass that his cock felt like it was going to explode as he did it..


Being bisexual guys we understand the stuff already .. I never considered myself .. I considered myself a man that will fuck another man or woman plus let a man fuck me..

But we get labeled like everyone else straight gay or bi ..

I’m just a man that enjoys sex .. as long as both happy or how many in a gb is happy that’s all that matters to me

 

[Mister2101]

I only speak for myself and I've always liked males ever since I could imagine. However, I find it really hard to believe what you suggest is true.

So I think your question should be posted on the "ask a straight man" forum. See what they think....

Thanks for responding. I respect your opinion.

If you read the comment below your last entry above------this seems to happen all the time. Meaning, a guy starts off jerking off with a friend......next he wants to try oral.....then rimming.....then anal sex.......once a man feels and tastes dick....oh man, he's hooked and will keep coming back for more......that's my observation.........and also my personal experience.....

LOL......I wouldn't put this on the "Ask a Straight Man" section.......the negative feedback and comments would be huge. Can't you just hear them: "Im straight.....I would never have anything to do with sex and another man......."

Like a man claiming to be straight, has NEVER been curious about MM gay sex and acted on his curiosity??????

Anyway---thanks for your thoughts and comments!!

 

[daftman]

good thread....

 

[ILoveGames48]

I been with guys years ago that are now married .. I often wonder if they still do it with guys or if they just did it because were horny and did stuff with me ..
One friend I know was really into the gay sex for couple years and is married now but occasionally comes over forsex.. mostly sucking his dick rimming his ass and then fucking him…

He says he and his wife hardly have sex since got married .. didn’t know why and she wouldn’t tell him.. so he comes to me knowing he can get laid with nsa

 

[Nomebear]

Thanks for responding. I respect your opinion.

If you read the comment below your last entry above------this seems to happen all the time. Meaning, a guy starts off jerking off with a friend......next he wants to try oral.....then rimming.....then anal sex.......once a man feels and tastes dick....oh man, he's hooked and will keep coming back for more......that's my observation.........and also my personal experience.....

LOL......I wouldn't put this on the "Ask a Straight Man" section.......the negative feedback and comments would be huge. Can't you just hear them: "Im straight.....I would never have anything to do with sex and another man......."

Like a man claiming to be straight, has NEVER been curious about MM gay sex and acted on his curiosity??????

Anyway---thanks for your thoughts and comments!!

Straight men watch gay porn, and that's a fact. And while watching it, they're wondering what they might be missing out on since they are bored with their sex life, or lack there of. It's only human, and yet they'll swear they never think about it. Growing up in the Texas ranch country, if it weren't for horny, curious straight men, I would not have had a sex life.

 

[FrankieGuile]

It is not true, and not even mostly true, and plenty of data and casual observation supports the notion that it is not remotely true. What is true and abiding is the fantasy-trope that every man is secretly homosexual, and he either knows it, suppresses it or will become homosexual someday, and if he only "tries it." It is also true that it should not matter if a lot, or a small handful, of men feel like you. Is one's sexual preference more valid if they're in the majority? Nevertheless, take heart. You will find plenty of people here willing to help you suspend reality long enough to believe it is true for a moment.

 

[Robert Dole]

It is not true, and not even mostly true, and plenty of data and casual observation supports the notion that it is not remotely true. What is true and abiding is the fantasy-trope that every man is secretly homosexual, and he either knows it, suppresses it or will become homosexual someday, and if he only "tries it." It is also true that it should not matter if a lot, or a small handful, of men feel like you. Is one's sexual preference more valid if they're in the majority? Nevertheless, take heart. You will find plenty of people here willing to help you suspend reality long enough to believe it is true for a moment.

Sadly, my personal experience and that of others does not support what you claim. There are a number of men who for whatever reason do try same-sex sexual activity and either decide it isn't for them, or find that maybe it is, or yes, that's it.
I do believe that bisexuality is far more common than widely thought, and a number of historical and contemporary studies support this- there are guys who have no sexual interest in women, guys who have no sexual interest in guys, and a fair few in between.
Personally, I don't have much time for gay men fantasizing about (and chasing) straight guys and don't really see the need- there are plenty of guys who consider these things within their own minds and act when the time is right.

 

[Mister2101]

It is not true, and not even mostly true, and plenty of data and casual observation supports the notion that it is not remotely true. What is true and abiding is the fantasy-trope that every man is secretly homosexual, and he either knows it, suppresses it or will become homosexual someday, and if he only "tries it." It is also true that it should not matter if a lot, or a small handful, of men feel like you. Is one's sexual preference more valid if they're in the majority? Nevertheless, take heart. You will find plenty of people here willing to help you suspend reality long enough to believe it is true for a moment.

Thanks for your comment. Just to be clear---I never said or implied that "every man is secretly homosexual." I do not think that. I do think that once a man engages in MM sex....that once he feels and tastes another man's cock that he will want to experience it again......Peace

 

[FrankieGuile]

Sadly, my personal experience and that of others does not support what you claim. There are a number of men who for whatever reason do try same-sex sexual activity and either decide it isn't for them, or find that maybe it is, or yes, that's it.
I do believe that bisexuality is far more common than widely thought, and a number of historical and contemporary studies support this- there are guys who have no sexual interest in women, guys who have no sexual interest in guys, and a fair few in between.
Personally, I don't have much time for gay men fantasizing about (and chasing) straight guys and don't really see the need- there are plenty of guys who consider these things within their own minds and act when the time is right.

Define "far more widely." I'll take my definition from the data of many studies and surveys which are directionally similar to the follow two examples. The National Health Interview Survey (NHIS), which the government uses annually to assess Americans’ health related behaviors, asked about self-identified sexual orientation. Based on responses, the NHIS estimates that 0.7% American adults identify as bisexual. A well-received study reported in Psychology Today combined data from five U.S. population surveys to conclude bisexuals comprise 1.4% of the adult male population.

Sadly, your personal experience neither overrides nor substitutes for the data. I've quoted former U.S Senator Daniel Patrick Moynihan before and will quote him here again: "Everyone is entitled to his own opinion, but not his own facts."

 

[JD_002]

Thanks for your comment. Just to be clear---I never said or implied that "every man is secretly homosexual." I do not think that. I do think that once a man engages in MM sex....that once he feels and tastes another man's cock that he will want to experience it again......Peace

Oh do not engage with him, you'll never see the end of it, trust me.

 

[FrankieGuile]

Oh do not engage with him, you'll never see the end of it, trust me.

@JD_002 is quite correct. I'm as persistent as those who insist a homosexual preference constitutes a larger number than it actually does. There really is no need to exaggerate. If every individual is self-determined, and every determination of preference is valid, then it shouldn't matter the number in your club. Just stand by your choices and be an individual.

 

[JD_002]

@JD_002 is quite correct. I'm as persistent as those who insist a homosexual preference constitutes a larger number than it actually does. There really is no need to exaggerate. If every individual is self-determined, and every determination of preference is valid, then it shouldn't matter the number in your club. Just stand by your choices and be an individual.

Ok motherfucker, there are times I was talking about my OWN experiences clearly stating those were unique to me and not generalizing, yet you still chose to go overboard and start arguing so...