So you rather make negative assumption without any actual proof first. Do you think that's rational? Are you claiming my experience is so outrageous that you can't just believe it at face value?
I'll give you the benefit of the doubt for this response because you did say that you never felt fetishized by white people. You didn't outright say you've never been fetishized by white people. I misread.
If that is how you feel, it's completely valid. Just the same, if we say we have felt fetishized in the past with personal experiences from them, those feelings are also valid. Bear in mind, that you are coming in here to offer your experience and asking for it to be respected, you should very well do the same for others.
You are pandering to those you hope will recognize you. Obviously the type that don't want to recognize that you are being fetishized because you are just happy that they are giving you attention.
I don't think it's fair to make assumptions about them based on what they, personally, felt during their own experiences. Just as we don't want our feelings about our experiences invalidated and dismissed, we should keep that same energy to someone who has felt the opposite.
Now, that said, neither side should be using their own personal experiences as "empirical evidence" that this absolutely always/never occurs. That is myopic and does nothing to foster an environment where a healthy dialogue can be made with various perspectives.
By all means, we should challenge each others beliefs and opinions, but under no circumstances should we be invalidating feelings or using our own feelings as "proof" that our beliefs and opinions are facts.
I have a lot of strong opinions on this topic and sometimes it may come off as if I'm generalizing. However, do try to understand that it is 100% coming from a place of emotion and, frankly, hurt feelings from past encounters with certain groups of people.
Just my .02.