TW: nothing bad, just a very strange experience
How do you deal with rejection from a person with whom you already had sex ?
Most guys that I had sex with, when I see them again, it’s an automatic yes, and we go again.
However, I see this guy regularly when I go to a cruising bar; we had sex once, and then every time I saw him again I try to initiate, but he always rejects my advances.
I know not to take this personally, but today, I saw him again (I really, really regret having initiated sex with him twice today; he looked away as soon as he saw me, yet I still debased myself by initiating and getting rejected), but he’s really my type and I saw him making out with another guy and jerking him off while completely ignoring me. Second time initiating, I was sitting next to him and playing with his hand, but he did not seem interested in me at all, but he was full on making out with another guy and let him suck his dick (he didn’t let me touch his dick this time).
The last time I saw him, perhaps a month ago, I initiated once and got rejected. The second time I initiated, he let me jerk him off a bit, but refused to let me do more (we made out and sucked each other the one and only time we had sex).
I know not to take this personally, and I had fun with other guys today too, but I can’t stop thinking about this guy and how he kept rejecting me and I still keep initiating. I really should not have, I feel so devalued right now. I already got rejected all times after that one time we had fun, yet I kept trying, I really should not have.
Perhaps it’s time for me to quit going to these kind of cruising places?
Any advice, experiences, thoughts, etc, welcome.
How do you deal with rejection from a person with whom you already had sex ?
Most guys that I had sex with, when I see them again, it’s an automatic yes, and we go again.
However, I see this guy regularly when I go to a cruising bar; we had sex once, and then every time I saw him again I try to initiate, but he always rejects my advances.
I know not to take this personally, but today, I saw him again (I really, really regret having initiated sex with him twice today; he looked away as soon as he saw me, yet I still debased myself by initiating and getting rejected), but he’s really my type and I saw him making out with another guy and jerking him off while completely ignoring me. Second time initiating, I was sitting next to him and playing with his hand, but he did not seem interested in me at all, but he was full on making out with another guy and let him suck his dick (he didn’t let me touch his dick this time).
The last time I saw him, perhaps a month ago, I initiated once and got rejected. The second time I initiated, he let me jerk him off a bit, but refused to let me do more (we made out and sucked each other the one and only time we had sex).
I know not to take this personally, and I had fun with other guys today too, but I can’t stop thinking about this guy and how he kept rejecting me and I still keep initiating. I really should not have, I feel so devalued right now. I already got rejected all times after that one time we had fun, yet I kept trying, I really should not have.
Perhaps it’s time for me to quit going to these kind of cruising places?
Any advice, experiences, thoughts, etc, welcome.