I'm too tight for sex, what could help?

[CUMBUM0345]

I am far too tight during sex. The one time I tried I felt the most horrible sharp pain in my unmentionables. I was thinking and was also recommended a butt plug to open me up before sex. Is this a good idea? I want to have sex bad but am so worried about the pain and I just can't tolerate it. I am tighter than anything. Please help

 

[LiquidSky]

Perhaps practice by beginning with a small dildo and then work up to lager ones.

 

[MNpervert]

Try wearing an inflatable butt plug that you can adjust throughout the day when you are wearing it.

 

[Periustraxis]

This is very usual and nothing to be worried about. It takes practice. Don't forget that the sphincter is a muscle. It's natural state is actually in the open position but since infancy you've been training it to remain closed unless needed (potty training).
It now takes time to train it for other things. As the others have said, start small. Maybe a finger, then two to start with (make sure you trim your nails properly and wash your hands afterwards). Your fingers are right there and you normally have 10 of them. Use them. A more important investment than plugs, imo, is lube. This makes it all much more comfortable. Better not to go for numbing lube at first, to make sure you don't injure yourself.

 

[playklax01]

Not to be a downer, but it's possible your body just isn't 'designed' to receive. I know mine isn't. I'm past the pain, but I get no pleasure bottoming at all, not for lack of trying. I like the closeness with the other person during it, but that's it. There's nothing that feels good about the act. Don't know where my prostate is, as that's never been hit. And I can't get off topping, that does nothing for me. I just can't win.

 

[CUMBUM0345]

Try wearing an inflatable butt plug that you can adjust throughout the day when you are wearing it.

I shall! Any affordable ones you can recommend?

 

[CUMBUM0345]

Not to be a downer, but it's possible your body just isn't 'designed' to receive. I know mine isn't. I'm past the pain, but I get no pleasure bottoming at all, not for lack of trying. I like the closeness with the other person during it, but that's it. There's nothing that feels good about the act. Don't know where my prostate is, as that's never been hit. And I can't get off topping, that does nothing for me. I just can't win.

It's a possibility but I really don't know. I have tried just once. I have put stuff up there when I've felt more open and it felt fine. I was also nervous as hell. It was my first time.

 

[MNpervert]

Amazon has a ton of them https://www.amazon.com/Trinity-Vibes-Inflatable-Butt-Plug/dp/B006NTUSG8
So does walmart on line inflatable but plug - Walmart.com

 

[Infernal]

Fingers and lots of lube so you can explore your body and learn what feels good. Find some toys to help you stretch yourself out slowly. Approach it realistically. You might discover that you're going to be very tight and it may not be pleasurable, or you may love it. Some people just aren't built for anal fun.

 

[ILoveGames48]

With me if I am with a tight guy.. I tend to rim and finger his ass for while help him open up and relax

 

[WilliamG]

The classic Prostate Wand is a great start. It allows to to "feel around" inside to feel what works. Not too big, and has a vibe at the end for extra stimulation.

Read thru the LPSG Sex Toy Club section for other tips and ideas as well.

 

[x911xxx]

You need to invest in some butt plugs. Wear them often and you'll slowly get to the point where you can take a big dick. You asshole is a muscle just like anything else and just needs to be stretched a little.