HotThroatLA
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I've had a few crushes on some straight men in the past, but I never took it to the level of trying to "convince" them to have sex with men -- or sex with me. Plus, being in my 20's in the mid-80's, you just didn't (and certainly couldn't!) risk a much more negative, possibly dangerous outcome. It's definitely very different today, with attitudes about gay people being much more accepting, and sexuality being much more fluid without the shame or guilt.
But seeing some of these comments from the straight guys, ponder flipping the script: you get very close and very friendly with a girl you really relate to, but you also consider hot. And at some point, your feelings turn sexual. So you ask her for that kind of relationship and she turns you down (for whatever the reason is).
Would you be able to have the same kind of close relationship with her -- strictly platonic and as friends only -- or would you find that hard to maintain, because you're still very attracted to her? I'm gonna wager most of you would answer the latter: you can probably still remain good friends, but not as close or hanging out as frequently.
That's really no different than what the gay man having the attraction to the straight friend is all about.
Either way, the key is respecting the answer you get.
And my two cents on calling someone out (like @Gj816 was) on what they may have or have not done in the past sexually, is completely uncool and none of your business. It just sounds bitter and accusatory.
But seeing some of these comments from the straight guys, ponder flipping the script: you get very close and very friendly with a girl you really relate to, but you also consider hot. And at some point, your feelings turn sexual. So you ask her for that kind of relationship and she turns you down (for whatever the reason is).
Would you be able to have the same kind of close relationship with her -- strictly platonic and as friends only -- or would you find that hard to maintain, because you're still very attracted to her? I'm gonna wager most of you would answer the latter: you can probably still remain good friends, but not as close or hanging out as frequently.
That's really no different than what the gay man having the attraction to the straight friend is all about.
Either way, the key is respecting the answer you get.
And my two cents on calling someone out (like @Gj816 was) on what they may have or have not done in the past sexually, is completely uncool and none of your business. It just sounds bitter and accusatory.