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Howdies. I'm 32, an Army vet, came out to my 2 friends in HS, have had 3 boyfriends (none were black) and even married a white guy at 23 both while active duty, and have been pretty thin much of my life, so I innerstand I have had many privileges. That stated, sexual abuse and introduction to porn early in life, an uber religious family (bible belt) with whom I no longer associate, a household full of scorned black women, and being rejected by black peers because I never embodied thug or sport culture heavily altered my younger perceptions. So, body issues galore. Wasn't until my mid 20s I realized my penis size was bigger than average. Early physical abuse damaged my jaw; would need reconstructive jaw surgery to prevent issues later in life. Military time resulted in multiple injuries to include stage 3 and 4 spinal degeneration, so coupled with my body type, being thin and somewhat fit is the best realistic expectation I can hope. Black guys rarely associated with let alone dated me. In fact, I have no close black male friend or family to date. So, eventually I hated black men, thus myself more, and dealt with issues with men from other races, most notably white men. My late husband - widowed at 28 during out separation, for instance, had the audacity at my 24th birthday, housewarming, and going away for deployment party to unzip my pants, pull my dick out in front of another mixed gay couple, and say, "look at what I got." Taken aback is an understatement. Between him and previous experiences with white men wanting me for my dick, I pretty much swore off dating them after he passed. And whereas I do not hate black men, and even more recently some have shown sexual interest, between the after effects of multiple traumas throughout my life, the development of my sexuality (demisexual, sapiosexual, verse, switch, tantric, etc.), and what I would want in a relationship, I may as well just remain single. Due to earlier traumas, I have almost never orgasmed in penetrative sex regardless of roles. To be truthful, I'd much rather get nude lap dances at a gay nude gentleman establishment than have casual sex. Despite this, other stuff, and not necessarily having healed from a lot of stuff, I have always been able to press forward, so my mental, emotional, and physical states are decent at least.
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