Do I have to explain how gays policing gays for being too outrageous is problematic or...
I do think Jake Hill is probably straight, but even if he's bi, coming out should not be a requirement for someone to make gay media. But moreover, plenty of gays talk like that and are raunchy and love his music.
Writing and playing characters that are not representative of the actor is...normal. It's an extreme example, but no one thinks George R.R. Martin cannot write Arya. Gays are famous for drag, and yes, people call drag out for being problematic all the time. There's legislation about it. Other gays call it out too. A lot of gay-adjacent culture is called out for being too horny or inappropriate.
When you feel offended by something, you should consider where the harm is, and also whether or not it actually represents something real, even if its something real you are not apart of or do not approve of. Like, the reason why racial, or sexual and gender minority casting for film is such a hot topic is because there is an existing bias against those actors which manifests as being disproportionately undercast. It is a similar logic to affirmative action, where we do not recognize that X% of such students necessarily are currently the best applicants, but we do recognize there are societal and systemic influences that bias both their ability to find opportunities and our ability to properly judge them and we apply pressure to give them those opportunities, understanding that only giving the best positions to the people who have historically benefitted leads to a cycle of single class advantage. And also that there is value in diversity of experiences and ideas in an environment
And of course there's authors/actors who create/embody characters with insufficient information or actual personal bias, and these things can stem from not actually being similar to the character depicted. But quite obviously, there are people who CAN pull these things off, and even the most successful depictions can be controversial, especially if the character in question is a controversial thing in real life. I don't think he shows the same dismissive ignorance as, say, a JKR, nor the active malicious diminishing of a Minstrel show.
He writes his own music as well. It's not like he's being 'cast' and stealing from someone else.
If there's a real harmful element to it, it's that there's existing harmful attitudes about gay sexuality and a gay person saying the same stuff would also incite hateful response.
Like he might do something stupid later down the line, but I haven't heard any criticism that wouldn't apply to either: ANY cis male drag queen, any gay person who says raunchy stuff, or even to an actor who plays a murderer.
Gays always have a problem of holding themselves and their culture to a higher standard and wanting to make nice and be approachable and I don't really see any criticism that doesn't play into that respectability politics, or otherwise wouldn't have significant negative consequences if actually applied evenly throughout society (ie; this is where we get people mad about changing existing characters like spiderman or Ariel into minorities. The idea that social demographics are intrinsic to the way a character would behave in a situation and only a person of the right characteristics could depict it, or the idea that Stan Lee had where a character who is a minority should in some way directly be built around celebrating that aspect of themselves instead of it being just...an independent attribute a human can have that CAN be a major part of their background but perhaps not).
Like...is it necessarily fair if Jake Hill's raunchy gay songs are more popular than Willam's or Rob Anderson's? who knows. I don't think they'd be more popular if Jake Hill didn't exist. I'd also argue they actually kind of play into negative stereotypes more and they're still fun and good regardless (and Rob actually has some good commentary on exactly that subject, whether you agree with it or not, he has put thought into his use of stereotype as a comedian). He does have some nonhorny songs under gay personas, sure, but if you tell me you think gay romance is fundamentally different with zero intersection with other romances and you can't possibly imagine a straight person writing a decent gay love/breakup song (or even just a pronouns change cover), then, well, I'm gonna give up there.
...Anyways this is supposed to be a horny thread.