Thanks Mum!
Posted 04-28-2008 at 05:56 AM by K8
So my mother called this morning.
She wants to chuck out my wedding dress.
For some reason I've always left it there, rather than bringing it here, but not sure I want to chuck it out.
My marriage is in dire straits and don't think I want to chuck out the dress just yet.
I mean I'm not going to do anything with it if I keep it. Have no kids to pass it on to, would never fit into it again.... but it just seems a bit symbolic to just discard.... yet.
That said, it was a disaster of a wedding dress. She made it. A size too small cos she thought I was too big.
Then she used the wrong material for the button holes so when I leant forward the fucking thing came undone....
The photographer backed me into a tree - admittedly, the dark greeness of the tree hid the thousands of mini-spiders attached to it so he didn't know what mistake he was making. However the whole congregation in the church saw it as I waltzed off down the aisle in my long white dress now covered with a trees worth of spiders!
That aside, the rest of the wedding wasn't fool proof either. The minister died the week before, the wedding car broke down, well... not exactly broke down, but it would only 'go' if the horn was blaring out.
Then just as it started to rain after the photos my new sister-in-law shoved a handful of coloured confetti down the front of my (what was up until then) white dress...
I did what any normal bride would do under the circumstances.... got sloshed!
So, marriage in tatters, wedding a farce, do I just say 'yes Mum, chuck it out today!' Or do I hang on to it for a reason I cannot think of right now.
I did point out to her that with the state of my marriage, chucking out my wedding dress might be symbolic, all on its own. (She knows he hasn't touched me in 15 years but doesn't think that's important).
Her response was 'Don't be so stupid! You'll never find anyone else to put up with you!'
It would have been funny if she'd said it in jest, but she didn't. She truly believes he is an angel for putting up with me and I shall be thankful just for that.
It's weird, no, sad, when you at last recognise how little your mother thinks of you!
Thanks Mum!
Oh and now she refuses to get rid of the wedding dress!
She wants to chuck out my wedding dress.
For some reason I've always left it there, rather than bringing it here, but not sure I want to chuck it out.
My marriage is in dire straits and don't think I want to chuck out the dress just yet.
I mean I'm not going to do anything with it if I keep it. Have no kids to pass it on to, would never fit into it again.... but it just seems a bit symbolic to just discard.... yet.
That said, it was a disaster of a wedding dress. She made it. A size too small cos she thought I was too big.
Then she used the wrong material for the button holes so when I leant forward the fucking thing came undone....
The photographer backed me into a tree - admittedly, the dark greeness of the tree hid the thousands of mini-spiders attached to it so he didn't know what mistake he was making. However the whole congregation in the church saw it as I waltzed off down the aisle in my long white dress now covered with a trees worth of spiders!
That aside, the rest of the wedding wasn't fool proof either. The minister died the week before, the wedding car broke down, well... not exactly broke down, but it would only 'go' if the horn was blaring out.
Then just as it started to rain after the photos my new sister-in-law shoved a handful of coloured confetti down the front of my (what was up until then) white dress...
I did what any normal bride would do under the circumstances.... got sloshed!
So, marriage in tatters, wedding a farce, do I just say 'yes Mum, chuck it out today!' Or do I hang on to it for a reason I cannot think of right now.
I did point out to her that with the state of my marriage, chucking out my wedding dress might be symbolic, all on its own. (She knows he hasn't touched me in 15 years but doesn't think that's important).
Her response was 'Don't be so stupid! You'll never find anyone else to put up with you!'
It would have been funny if she'd said it in jest, but she didn't. She truly believes he is an angel for putting up with me and I shall be thankful just for that.
It's weird, no, sad, when you at last recognise how little your mother thinks of you!
Thanks Mum!
Oh and now she refuses to get rid of the wedding dress!
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 |  For better or for worse. For better or worse. That is what it is. At least, you have a hubby to come home to. And a mother. I have neither. But if he is making you unhappy...do what you gotta do. Keep the dress if you want. So, if you and your hubby can weather the storms. That wedding dress will symbolize something cooler and deeper than the humorous home to tree spiders. But it is funny though. |
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| |  K8, I am so sorry. So often we idealize having a mate if we arent married or vice versa if we are. I am so sorry your mom isnt more supportive. Get your dress and keep it till you are ready to throw it out or not. Never fear there may be someone out there for you who will love you as you deserve to be loved. |
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| |  I empathizeI went away for a week and my mother helped me by cleaning my room. Grrrrr. I had everything in nice neat piles and now she has moved the piles into bags.  |
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| | you might give it to Goodwill so that another young lady (victim) can enjoy it. |
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| |  LOL - that was hilarious! Of course you don't chuck it out!! You say, "Mom, ship it to me, and I'll pay the postage." Then you keep it in a box and stick it in the closet or under the bed. Then, when you have resolved the marriage issue, and when you're over the emotional fallout, then you artfully display the dress on a wall somewhere -- sort of like one of those arty kimonos -- or maybe you buy a dummy and hang the dress on the dummy -- so that you can have some really good laughs telling your guests and future boyfriends about the dress. Displaying it is optional, but the dress is too full of funny memories to discard. Heck, if you ever became a stand up comic (which I feel you could do), you could use the dress as a "ventriloquist's dummy" to talk about weddings. And while I'm on the subject, here's a dude who's a great ventriloquist who has some really far out dummies: Achmed The Dead Terrorist Wikipedia -- Jeff Dunham |
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| |  Throw it away, it's only stuff :-) |
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| |  It was an old rerun of "The Odd Couple" I think, on tv, I saw when I was young. Some young woman was there and didn't want any attachments. I might be entirely wrong but I remember her saying. People don't own things, things own people. There's a point to ponder. Speaking of which I need to go stuff some stuff in boxes that I can stuff in more boxes. I'm a packrat, I can't just accept that quote or anything :) |
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| |  Having read this more than once what strikes me as a little odd is with all that went wrong before and during and after your wedding, didn't you ever think what the heck am I doing? That said hide sight is always 20/20. God knows I have stepped in crap more than once myself. As for the dress the next time you go home for a visit, just pick it up and take it home with you.This could allow you to bring up things you might what to discuss with your old man. Just a suggestion. Lastly, I wonder if you wrote Private Benjamin. |
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