I hate when people do things like that. It's sick and stupid that a person can hate someone based off of the color of their skin. I'm glad he's gone. Nice body by the way

No need to apologize for the pain you feel, Rikter. You felt it, you expressed it, and that's that.

I endured many of those same pains in my school years. I don't look back on that time with much nostalgia.

I'm not one of those who claims that suffering hardship always has the end result of strengthening character. Sometimes hardship is just that: lonely, bitter, unrewarding and just as potentially damaging as it is strengthening.

Ostracism and social isolation in the teen years is a difficult trial for those who encounter it. Serious emotional scars can and do result. I endured it but I didn't emerge unscathed. It would be nice to say I kept my head high through it all but that wasn't the case. And there really was no hidden silver lining at the end of it all.

It didn't even go as far as my sex life, because that sort of bs I would not have put up with. It was my thoughts. And actually, I think that is just as bad, isn't it?

Nice !!

Clean Fun !!

I'm happy for you. I have to admit I never heard of it.

I feel for you, buddy.

I went to college. Graduated. But due to my experiences there. I don't trust professors anymore. And I was a Dean's List student but thanks to a few professors...I didn't graduate on the Dean's List. AND I had to go to two summer sessions just to get out in four years. Thanks to those professors.

I had a few relationships at age 22. Took me until I was 26 to have what I considered a long term relationship with a guy and he broke up with me after a year. I met a really nice guy at age 30. That was my longest relationship. I got dumped at 36. Six years. But only three of those years were quality years. I want my three years back. Especially now I know he is a cheater and I went through sooo much.

I think that all that I went through. It has made me a better person though. I don't take bullshit from guys like I used to.

And those exes really had nerve to call me up on the holidays. Boy, did I have fun telling them to "Get cunted."

Life isn't fair. Try a chronic disease, like diabetes. It inconveniences you always, costs like hell to control, makes you feel "different", and tends to age you a little quicker.

But pain and hardships can work towards your inner growth and spirituality in a positive manner, whereas those who have not "suffered" as much can tend to be less compassionate and more self-centered.

Still, I would choose the easier road, if given a choice.

not totally... you still may be able to recover segments of the data, or files.

I generally burn mine, then use them for target practice.

"After leaving a msg on another guys post it got me thinking. With no doubt everyone on this site will have noticed that gay men could be described as.. promiscuous or even primitive. I have travelled a lot but have never seen a faithful male gay relationship Sure I have heard of them just like I've heard of a gay mafia. But how do you really know they these myths are real? Like When you out having cocktails & cock talk with the girls, how many gay couples have you met that seem really in love? Later one of them is exposing him self to you in the toilets. Is this because sex is now to available making it almost its impossible to settle down or even attempt a faithful relationship when their is always fresh talent beckoning you to them like a drug? Years ago when I was a wee teenager I wasn’t like this ( I wanted a BF and to get married.. sorry I mean civil partnership or whatever. Sure I have always had a high sex drive So bad its sometimes a problem. I’m like a dog on heat! lol. But seriously sometimes I cant concentrate at work or in social situations. I’m always looking for sum one to pull.) Is it just me or is every guy like this? Is it human nature or a crave for nurture? Is it societies fault, life experiences or just male instinct? Are we promiscuous so we don’t have to feel or is it because deep down we yearn to feel something real? So gay bois wots ur thoughts on my thoughts? lol Ste x"

I wanted the same things, as well. The serious relationship and all. I did have one at age 30 and it lasted until I was 36. And the guy was older. But he wanted fresh meat and not the fuddy duddy I was.
So, now I am single at 38. Maybe I will meet someone and maybe not.

If you are asking whether men are wired to commit or are we horny opportunists? I think you have to ask a lot of other men. But I will speak for myself. I like men. I love the male form. Sometimes how men think and what they actually do, is confusing at times.
I don't think the sexual urge really is NOT a respector of a loving relationship. If a guy wants to fuck someone else and the opportunity presents itself. It could get predatorial. Hehehe.

I would only hope that if you ever find someone who loved you enough and you did feel the same way for that guy, that you would try not to disrespect them. And they not disrespect you. Sometimes men feel that it is their right to fuck around...and not be fuck around upon. Strange logic.

I can count the many of exes that really thought that that notion was fine...but when the holidays come around...they want to good old Invisi to bring them tidings of good cheer...but end up getting a telephone slam and a dial tone or a "good ol' door slam" like Demi Moore got in GI JANE...THAT was machine gun action laughable. And if the breakup was really ass fuckted, they may get the good ol' "You get cunted, you cuntifiable ass cunt!!" James Brown then, follow with either a telephone slam and a dial tone...Or a Demi Moore door slam with force majure head decapitation.

It depends on where you go and the company you keep. You really can't define your own sexuality by watching the sexuality of others. If someone exposes themself to you in the toilet, nothing says you have to grab it!

There is nothing wrong with having a huge sex drive and certainly nothing wrong with looking. There is nothing wrong with flirting either (although I would not recommend you do it at work!) but if you ask someone if they are in relationship it is your, and only your, reaction to their answer that defines how you view your own world.

I had 2 separate 8 year monogamous relationships and I know some very happy gay (men and lesbian) couples. You just have to keep your eyes open when you, for example, go to the movies, or out to dinner in order to see other couples. There may even be couple's groups where you live. I don't think a typical "long term" couple will go to the same places as young single horny men although I suppose that is possible. There are also may who are in "open" relationships that may or may not appeal to everyone. Again, it is your own reaction to this that will define your own personality and preference.

Your "nature/nuture" comments opens up a philosophical and psychological question that has been argued by better souls than I for hundreds of years.

Meanwhile, it seems you have a few choices, you can either do as you see others do or you can create a different standard for yourself while you look for a bf who may or may not turn into your life's mate. If you are an experimentalist you may try both depending on how you feel at the time.
good luck.

It seems that since gays are used to breaking social norms by simply "being gay", then the idea of faithfulness is just another social norm to break. Perhaps a personal belief in the sanctity of marriage, usually accompanied by deep religious convictions, will help a gay couple to remain faithful to each other (and God). You will probably find examples of this faithfulness in certain gay/friendly churches, i.e., MCC, Episcopal, Unitarian, etc.

Though I have never lived with a significant other, I have remained faithful in two m/m relationships for five and seven years respectively. Part of this was due to the influence of religious beliefs.

Yes! I shave my pubes regularly. Gives me a reason to always be checking on my balls and dick. Feels so soft. Gives me impression of increase in size really regarding. Also, anybody every used a condom then tried for quick release/removal thereby enduring pain of pube yanking? Well, shaved guys don't need to worry. May fuck and enjoy taking off the rubber with no added pain. Alas. Plse adv.

Bashing hard drives with a hammer may not render them totally useless, as the disc could be removed and put into a good drive - this is how they can get back your data if the drive electronics are fried - but at a price. However, taking the case apart and wacking the disc will finish it off completely - had to do this in a UK prison once to make sure it was really unreadable!

A fool-proof way is to drill several holes through the case and disc - this totally ruins them, and is the method used by one UK Local Authority that I have dealings with

Sheesh, that is frightening!

I was once told by a friend with experience in hacking and computer security that the best thing to do with an old hard drive was to hit it with a hammer a few times before trashing it. As that was the best way to ensure any data still left on it would be unaccessible or undecipherable.

However, since my mattress doesn't offer any interest, banks do seem to be the only game in town.

oh and by the way NJQT...

Downey's role of an Australian portraying an African American was created as a way of lampooning the great lengths that some method actors will go to depict a role. Downey acknowledged the potential controversy over the role: "at the end of the day, it's always about how well you commit to the character. If I didn't feel it was morally sound, or that it would be easily misinterpreted that I'm just C. Thomas Howell [in Soul Man], I would've stayed home." When initially approached by Stiller about the part, Downey said on CBS's The Early Show that his first reaction was, "Ben, this is insane!" and that Stiller responded, "Yeah--isn't it great?" Brandon T. Jackson, who portrays Alpa Chino in the film, stated: "When I first read the script, I was like: What? Black face? But when I saw him [act] he, like, became a black man...It was just good acting. It was weird on the set because he would keep going with the character. He's a method actor." Ben Stiller also commented on Downey's portrayal of a white actor playing a black man: "When people see the movie – in the context of the film, he’s playing a method actor who’s gone to great lengths to play an African American. The movie is skewering actors and how they take themselves so seriously. Audiences that have seen it so far have totally embraced the character." Stiller also previewed the film before several African American journalists and the NAACP who reacted positively to the character.
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from wikipedia, not exactly the gospel, but good enough

I'm so glad I decided to check-out your blog. As a worker in the mental health field I see the way people react to my clients on a daily basis. Those people that move to the other side of the isle in the grocery store and the ones that whisper and laugh behind their hands have no idea of how lucky they are that they or someone they care about hasn't been effected by mental illness. I believe that if more people were educated on the subject they would understand that living, lawfully and nonviolently, with mental illness was closer to the reality than what is portrayed in the movies and on TV.

as a straight man, no shaved look is my preference...trimed yes shaved no......

probably as many do as don't.. Waxing and shaving is hot right now, but personally, for myself, and to see on other men, a natural hairy state is best. It looks like a man. I like my beard, my chest hair and my thick cock bush. As for the natural state of affairs, I only wish I hadn't been robbed of my foreskin at birth.

I'm a natural kind of guy..

Follow your Life and Times intently Jason
THANK YOU for sharing this important part of it all .
I am sure Matt has the very best of intentions and altho hurt you a little ..
it should all work out for the BEST
KEEP WELL
enz