An update on the living situation

A few people came up with some suggestions and advice, and I'd like to thank you all, and respond a little, with a bit more of an explaination.

Her and I are friends, we have been for years. Before moving in here, we'd sit up until 4am, polishing off a bottle or two of gin together. Its no secret that me and her son have had serious problems in the past, and with the exception of people online, she is the only person I have to turn to. Things in her love life have been far from perfect too, and she usually turns to me with her problems.

The thing is with being so open, is that we both met and still meet most if not all of our sexual partners online, and most of the people we have to turn to in real life don't understand it, and their advice extends about as far as "I told you so, it never works" which is about as helpful as smacking your head against a wall, then walking down the middle of the main road, drunk, during rush hour.

When we moved in, we were forced to have a very open conversation with her, none of us (herself included) wanted to be pushed into changing our way of life, and given our open relationship, and her jumping from one guy to another in the hopes of finding Mr. Right, without talking about how things would work sharing a house, I don't think anything would have worked and we'd have (given we're both very strong minded and very aggressive women) ended up killing each other.

I guess, in many ways, I'm lucky. She's more of a best mate than a mother in-law, but that ofc has its draw backs.

Well, the update.

I didn't go as far as to show her some of the comments left, I can be more upfront here than most places and I'd hate to upset her. I did however try explaining how I was feeling, and what I needed, putting her in my shoes.

It was fortunate that I did this just after her getting back from a night out, and she wasn't in a good mood. She'd met a guy and didn't bring him home because she didn't feel it was right to do so, so I'm guessing she finally experienced first hand, how I'd been feeling.

The conversation went around in circles for a bit, with both of us sat there saying "Well its your home too, you can do as you wish" but by the end, we'd come to the conclusion, that we're both adults, and neither of us have exactly conventional sex lives and we need to lay off the hints and just be honest with each other.

I've actually managed to write all of this without being offered any coffee, so it looks like so far, its working. I hope it continues down this route, but only time will tell.

Thanks again for everything