Words of affirmation
Posted 10-29-2008 at 07:09 PM by bguy
I think one of the reasons I was so unsure of where E stood is that she never initiated any contact with me. That changed on Sunday evening when she sent me a text:
So later that night I wrote her an e-mail in response and also asking if she'd be interested in a homecooked meal at my place this Wednesday evening. She wrote me back in the morning:
It's in just a few hours, so I've been busy getting ready and don't have time to write that lengthy post about the Five Love Languages.
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Hey bguy! I hope you had a great weekend :) I did!
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Hey bguy,
I'm glad to hear your weekend went pretty well. I went to a Dia De Los Muertos (not sure if I spelled that right) event @ the museum which was pretty cool experience. I've never been to anything like that before and I love learning about other cultures so it was pretty awesome. This Sunday I didn't do anything except watch some movies. Hey have you seen the Bucket List? It's a really good movie!
I would love to come over for dinner this Wednesday and have dinner with you =) Would you like me to bring over a movie? Scrabble delux edition? Pictionary? Monopoly? lol
I hope your Monday is off to a good start ; ) Have a good one!
xoxo~E
I'm glad to hear your weekend went pretty well. I went to a Dia De Los Muertos (not sure if I spelled that right) event @ the museum which was pretty cool experience. I've never been to anything like that before and I love learning about other cultures so it was pretty awesome. This Sunday I didn't do anything except watch some movies. Hey have you seen the Bucket List? It's a really good movie!
I would love to come over for dinner this Wednesday and have dinner with you =) Would you like me to bring over a movie? Scrabble delux edition? Pictionary? Monopoly? lol
I hope your Monday is off to a good start ; ) Have a good one!
xoxo~E
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I am as confused by you as I am by what's going on with her! The offer to bring a movie I can just about understand but Scrabble? Pictionary and Monopoly? Are you seriously offering to go to her house to play games? I cannot say I am surprised she only sees you as a friend. It is also unsurprising that she backs away when you try to kiss her. I think you are just as guilty of sending mixed messages as she is! I would suggest you stop offering to bring games and instead bring a nice bottle of wine and a movie (or just the bottle of wine!).Posted 10-29-2008 at 07:46 PM by Runco
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Runco, I think you need to re-read the post. I did not offer to bring games to her home. I invited her to my place for dinner and made no mention of games. The e-mail I quoted was from her. She texted me today and said she will bring a movie tonight.Posted 10-29-2008 at 07:50 PM by bguy -
I think your approach to this is fine, and that second guessing anything at this point is just going to do more harm than good.
She said she wanted to take things slow. That might mean 6 months before she really feels like she knows you well enough to do anything, other than kiss you. She could just be that guarded, or she could have standards that specify a set amount of time... or set amount of romantic/intellectual involvement with someone before things become physical.
Regardless of this, there will come a point and time where one of you will have to confront the other about the direction of the relationship. If you have 'no expectations' about her feelings for you... then you aren't going to pressure her, and will continue to get to know her without a sexual relationship. Maybe that is what she wants, or what she needs. Maybe she has to be 'in love' with someone before she has sex with them. It happens, you know. We're out there. ;)
If this ISN'T what you want... (by this, I mean... a 'serious' relationship that starts off slowly and builds over time)... and are more interested in a physical relationship, then you should rethink this. It sounds to me like she's only interested in someone who will take things as they fall, with no expectations. That can be a good thing... Once you lose sight of the notion, or stop wondering when or if she might fall in love with you... and just have fun together, you become yourself more, and she may actually fall for you. Tricky, but some women don't want to be the one being pursued. It puts them under enormous pressure, and they get cold feet.
However, if you fall in love with her during the waiting process, and she decides that she isn't going to reciprocate those feelings, that is the risk you take... but the rewards are so great when things work out.
I really hope that you get what you want out of this... even if it means a test of patience. Good luck...;)Posted 10-29-2008 at 08:36 PM by sweetpetite
