Discuss your Orientation

I dunno, I could be hot to fuck him silly, tell him what a piece of shit he is, I then say "Your fired! Now get your sorry ass outta here!

Even as little boys we were aware of what happened to little boys when they grew up: they would become much fonder of girls; they would find the right one; they would get married and have children. Some of us grew up liking both boys and girls, a very few of whom we counted as best friends.
I had the good fortune of having one best friend, a boy my age who was new in town. We became more than friends and we had the privacy to express our friendship; and when we found ourselves doing things which we hadn't ever imagined regular guys like ourselves would do we were both surprised and delighted. That first of many many homosexual experiences seemed so natural and so right; it was a wonderful confirmation of the bonds that existed between us.
The summer after our junior year in high school he went west to work on a ranch; he informed me that his father had provided him with condoms explaining that, "If you're going to be messing with girls, don't be stupid, be prepared." (Never did find out whether he got to use them.) That summer turned out to be the summer my experience of the whole realm of sexual relationship was broadened by a very comprehensive introduction to sex with a woman. She was/is five years older than I and was no amateur and I was a fast learner; somehow I knew that it was on that side of my sexuality where I would end up. But, I was happy to resume my relationship and the homosexual sex to the end of my high school days.
I have had only six partners in sex, three men and three women, and all in long-term relationships, All remain friends whom I love dearly. I have always been a faithful partner; casual sex has never been attractive to me. Not all relationships become sexual relationships but they are the ties that make life worthwhile. Our culture does not make it easy for men to bond in deep friendship which to me is key to understanding why we have so many young people who grow up confused.
I resist all labels and I fully understand those persons who find their settled happiness with a person of the same sex. I am still "stirred" when I have the occasion to visit with any one of my former partners. I haven't any great insight as to how human sexuality ought to be dealt with. But, sometimes I share my thoughts hoping to get some enlightening feedback.

I am a gender confused girl who soley seeks sex with gay men. I view myself as bi gendered and as a flaming homosexual. I speak with a lisp, use my hands excessively and have a good sense of interior decorating skills. I am in all sense of the word gay and happily so.

I put 100% straight because I don't want come-ons from other men. Compliments are great from either gender. But sexual come-ons from men are not attractive for me.

With me, it's about empathy and brotherhood. I see a big dick and I either wonder what it would be like if mine were like that, or I am proud for the guy -- or enraged by jealousy.

It seems that society will just not allow a type of brotherly pride in being male. Males always have to relate to each other in terms of competition, and so much as noticing that another guy has a penis, so much as looking at another man's penis, is suspicious. Or maybe this is just the US. I've heard we're more hung-up than other countries.

I sometimes like to imagine what it would be like to BE another man, which in itself I suppose could be seen as sexual. But it's different -- it's actually DEEPER -- than sex with another man. It is purely BEING that other man.

Sorry. I get too deep sometimes. What was that song? "Shove me in the shallow water before I get too deep."

I was in college when the concept of "bisexual" was introduced to me. Almost immediately I knew that was me. I'm equally sexually attracted to men and women. Obviously, that would be men and women that I personally find attractive - not just anyone by benefit of being a human being.

I've had many long-term relationships with men and a handful with women and over the course of the last few years have come to understand that I'm much happier in a male/female relationship - for numerous reasons that I won't go into here. But sexually, I LOVE sex with both men and women and can't imagine giving either of them up.

I believe most people are at varying places on the straight-gay scale, with few of us firmly at either end - or directly in the middle, for that matter. I identify as bi and had a brief "coming out" period that was necessary for me at the time and made me a stronger person.

The thought of being with a guy who enjoys seeing other big cocks doesn't bother me at all. Gay male sex has never been a deal to me one way or another, but it's hot to know that the guy can appreciate what another man has - and is willing to get up close and personal without all the homophobia.

I'm orientated North, but if you rotate me I'll be facing South. :)

I like nice guys who are very unihibited sexually. I have an atrraction to women. You could almost put it as a need. I become very codependent around women that I'm attracted to and will change my personality to get them to like me. I hate that about myself but there it is. Guys I can be sexual with and still keep my identity and not put up with any you know what. Beautiful women can and have walked all over me. I might say I prefer men because I'm less likely to get hurt and I can be myself around them.

My orientation is 100% gay. For as long as I can remember (even when I was 4, 5 or 6 years old) I was intrigued by men. I used to think to myself about the neighbor's dad who would play baseball with us, "I wish my dad was like _______", meaning the neighbor. When I was a little older, the kids in the neighborhood played around, showed each other our private parts ... touched them ... both guys and girls. The older I got the more infatuated with guys I got. I enjoyed being around them, was attracted to the athletic ones, didn't have much sexual experiments but KNEW I liked them. In jr. high and high school did sleep overs and jerking each other. I "dated" a few girls but didn't have real sex with them; just kissing and what not. So this feeling of wanting to be with men was ingrained in my very being before I even knew what sex or being gay or str8 was. I do enjoy watching str8 sex - it's hot to see a guy and gal together. I don't relate to the girl "wishing I was her" and I don't relate to the guy "he's getting that girl", it's just hot to me to see them having sex and being aroused and all. I'm 100% gay but still appreciate a beautiful, vivacious woman but don't wanna have sex with her. Now a guy? A muscular beefy stud? I wanna get to him as fast as I can! LOL

What a good thread. Keep on posting.

When I was in my teens and twenties, I did feel some attraction for some jocks (I was lanky and awkward back then). Some guys did hit on me in university, but I didn't feel the need to respond to their advances (I was very inhibited back then). However, things changed when I hit my 30s: I started to have feelings for guys and needed to act on them; I still feel the same way at 40 and am not so inhibited....

I feel attraction for men and women, but couldn't tell you whether I'm more attracted to men or women. A fomer gay friend of mine was bold enough to tell me that I was gay and in denial.

When I'm in a relationship, I'd never think of cheating on that person.

Convention, supported by traditional cultural and social mores, teaches us to think about heterosexuality and homosexuality in black and white terms. As I became a sexually experienced adult, I began to fully understand how this aspect of human sexuality is more realistically depicted as a continuum. Sure, there are many people who are exclusively heterosexual or homosexual, but there are also a lot of people at different points in between the two extremes, whether or not they ever act on both of sexual interests, whether or not they consider themselves to be bisexual in any practical sense. Its great that the LPSG community is sophisticated enough to understand this. On a personal note, I have always found there to be a great many men who are quite straight for the most part but who nonetheless are intrigued and even aroused by a large penis. I know that’s not a bold statement for this site.

In respect to my own sexuality, I consider myself to be gay, but even so, I have enjoyed sex with women. Honestly, though, I think a good part of the enjoyment owed to a satisfied male ego for having “nailed a broad.” I am never blind to a beautiful or sexy woman, but for a woman to register on the peter-meter, and some do, she has to be a pretty specific type that works for me. My sexual tastes in men are much broader, and a certain physical standard – although desirable – is not as critical. Because of lifestyle choices I have made, it has been a long time since I have pursued sexual relations with women. In male-to-male sex, I find the intensity of combined male sex drives to be particularly hot. Also, plainly spoken, I really like dicks and always have– my own and the dicks of other guys.

Interesting thread but highly subjective. My interpretation of the purpose and true meaning of the percentages is highly different from someone (perhaps everyone!) else's. As I have read posts throughout, not only this thread but, the entire lpsg site, I can honestly say that many, perhaps most, men who list themselves as 1%, 10%, or even 25% gay and then talk about their experiences, fantasies, preferences, and orientation, put my 50% to shame. As I have said in other threads dealing with this topic, I based my percentages on an overall life experience PLUS, as many here have stated, I find both men and women physically attractive. Is the % based only on appearance and attractiveness? Is it based only on the gender of the people you have sex with? Is it based on who you feel more emotionally attracted to? Is it a combo of all of these? *OR* should we just not worry about any of these and concentrate at our current place in time, with whomever we are with and not allow someone's gender dictate what we do or, better yet, who we are?

Namaste

My personal orientation is pretty unambiguously gay. I can recognize attractive women, and comment on them, but as I always say, it's like looking at a landscape painting: just because it's beautiful doesn't meant I want to have sex with it.

As for the straight men here who enjoy looking at pictures of dicks--the sex columnist Dan Savage, one of my favorite voices on matters of sexuality, says that straight men enjoy dick. They don't like men, but dicks are fascinating. It's the reason for the popularity of shemales: gay men don't want women with dicks, they want men. Straight men are the ones who want women and penises at the same time.

Interesting you interpret Savage's opinion this way. Here is a quote from an April column (scroll half way down to "I've got a file full of letters . . ":

[Savage Love] Piss, Dragons and 'Playboy'—Oh, My! - Columns - OC Weeklypage 1 - OC Weekly

Sounds to me like he thinks if a man likes cock he is gay, period. Well, I guess he doesn't really say that str8 men who suck cock actually *like* the man they are sucking.



What was your point now?