What does it mean to you to be dominated in bed?

Every woman I chat with online or talk with in bars and clubs wants to be dominated in bed. Not 99%, 100%. Generally not always, but certainly they want it in the sexual mix. As in this quote: " I just want to be used for his pleasure" or "Control me, make me do what you want."

What does dominate mean to you? And to keep it on topic, does a big cock make you feel more submissive? Or a powerful muscular body?

I know men like to answer these questions too so what does it mean to dominate? Gay men? Do you like the feeling of occasionally being dommed by your man?

Stop going to that bar in the warehouse with the slings, and cages.

dominate to me means...the art of persuasion.
i do not "dom" my sub,i get them to crave it and ask me to do it.
i persuade them.

LOL!

I am a woman who does NOT want to be dominated, in bed or anywhere else. There is no greater way to piss me off than to try to dominate over me! (And I would show you a one-way route to the door!)

I sometimes like to be dominated but not humiliated. What I mean is I don't want to be blindfolded, hog-tied, or made to beg in a master/slave scenario. I do however enjoy male dominant positions especially if he restrains my hands and arms with his. A 69 with him on top is always nice as well.

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Originally Posted by Lee_M I dont like to be dominated in the bondage way and the master/slave does nothing for me. But what i do like it to be lead into whatever is going to happen. A man who can mentally and confidently control the situation and not have to be told what to do or even demand it. Also a man who in a sensual way can let out his masculine side by using his strength and body to control mine.

Hmmmmm -- sorry, but this is a case by case situation. How boring to only have sex one way!

I actually seem to like this too, although I am definitely not "submissive". I suppose those positions seem to make for more intense sex, which I like.

And I'm all for "mixing it up" too, like Not_Punny said!

It really does depend on the situation, who you're with, and the chemistry. I like a guy to take control a lot of the time, but if he pitched it at the same level every time, it would get boring. If I'm really turned on, I, (very) occasionally, like to be slapped (not walloped) across the face, but if someone did it a lot without sensing that was what I wanted I would get pissed off.

It also depends on the relationship outside the bedroom. In my last relationship I was with someone who wanted to control everything, and eventually it became suffocating. I think there can be a very fine line between being dominated in a way that is a turn on, and being bullied. Like anything, for it to have full effect, it needs to be changed up with a contrasting approach.

Yep I agree Not really weird stuff w/chains and all that just he likes to be in control and its really grown on me. He's usually on top and a lot of the time he pins my arms or wrists down or my shoulders. Honestly at first when we started doing it I wasn't so sure but I've kinda gotten used to it and expect it plus its grown on me and I really like it now . But yeah no weird stuff.

blindfolds? No Blindfolds? Blindfolds can be used in other ways besides domination.

Just like everythingelse in married life.Get her to think it's her idea and everythings good!

I think it means they want to lose control. To completely surrender to their partner. To be taken to their limit. It's the ultimate show of trust.

Maybe in a "Bitter Moon" kind of way?

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If by dominate you mean take charge...

I hate it.
I hate being asked to do it anyway.

Can you give more info about the "Bitter Moon" reference? I assume that its a movie. I had a look at "Bitter Moon" movie scenes on youtube but couldn't find any that seemed to involve domination.