Two of my best friends came out to me.

One I went to univerity with and we were frat brothers. The other had lived across the street from me since childhood, was a jet pilot in the US
Air Force and was engaged to my sister.

The three of us have been close friends since grammar school days, almost like brothers. I had always had an idea that one was gay (the frat bro.), but never would have believed it about the one engaged to my sister...the star high school quarter back, prom King, and now an Air Force pilot.

Since I was married, the frat brother came to me asking for advice. He
had been engaged for about 2 years and was having second thoughts about his wedding, which was just 5 months away. We had been sitting in the yard drinking beer and he got a bit tipsy. All three of us had "played around", as we called it when we were 12 or so years old, and then again at about 15. He got a bit high on the beer and finally broke down crying and said he was worried that he was gay and was afraid he was making a big mistake by getting married. He wanted to know, since we had done what we had done when we were kids, if my marriage was a happy one. I had never told anyonel that I was gay or bi, but since we had a history, I immediately told him that I was bi. He cried even more! I told him, no, my marriage was a very happy one. After some talk, he left, broke off his engagement and is now happily living in Arizona with his lover. We still keep in touch.

The friend who was engaged to my sister came to me worried that if he broke off the engagement that he would lose my friendship. He then explained that in any case I probably would not want his friendship when he told me the reason. He blurted out "I'm gay and don't want to marry your sister and don't know how to break it off. I'm afraid that you are going to hate me now", and then he also broke down and cried.

I assured him that I could never hate him and that we would always be friends. Then I dropped the "bomb shell" and told him that I too was gay, or bi. Well, I'm not ashammed to say that both of us were crying by that time!

I sure hope it doesn't happen again. It's too nerve wracking!