What does BAD sex feel like?

"Bad Sex," can fall into a number of different categories: just not into it; the "dead fish" (just laying there with no reaction); "watch out with those teeth." Is a common one; trying too hard at it can end badly. I'm Sure that there are more examples, more humiliating examples too, so lets see them.

Bad sex =

• college sex. Lots of stamina and energy and ZERO technique. Rough as hell, painful and lacking finesse (i.e. tongues roughly thrust in ears and the like) <shudders>
• same old same old sex. Same moves every night. Boring as hell. He cums and rolls over. She thinks 'thank GOD!'
• porno movie sex. Your man watches a porn movie and then wants to bring those moves into bed - EXACTLY those moves.

I am sure there are more but I am too hot and tired to think of them! (We are having a heatwave here).

Wondrous observation.

I see. So rough sex is a misconception probably most of the time; I am not surprised. Question though, can someone having too much stamina, even with good technique, still be bad?

Bad sexs leaves you with these age-old phrases:

"Jeez, uh...I gotta go."

"That's it?"

"Holy fuck, are sure you got tested?"

"Don't tell anyone we did this."

i'd comment but still laffin' at Runco - damn - hit it right on the head :)
'cept i could've written it from a male perspective, not much diff

and we 2 havin' a heat wave - just not the humid part :))

the other part of me retorts - damn, u gotta ask?
if so, you'll know....

one of these onerous days....

There is rough and there is rough. I don't think sex should involve bruising or tearing anywhere - college sex often does. Stamina - a great thing if the sex is blinding because you want it to go on and on! If the sex is bad and there is lots of stamina - that is just a nightmare. "Good" sex with lots of stamina is more tricky. It can be exactly what you want to begin with but unless imagination is regularly applied, it can get pretty boring if it goes on for too long.

she speaks a.k.a. sting ...

More like Goldicocks (to steal a word from Carrie on SATC)!

This sex is too rough
This sex is too boring
This sex is just riiiiight...

Great question! I had an old man once tell me there is no such thing as bad sex--only good, better, and best. He was absolutely right.

The trick is with the word "sex." Sex is like eating. If you pretend you're having sex, but are not into it, or the other person's not, that's when it goes south. It's like chewing when you don't feel like eating. You can get hard, you can even cum, but chances are the other person picks up on what you feel, and it would have been better not to do anything at all.

You shouldn't call that "sex." You wouldn't call it eating if you don't feel like it. Nor do you blame the food. You never say you have "bad eating." You can blame the meal instead of saying you really had no appetite, or didn't feel like eating at all.

It makes no sense to fake an appetite. If you're hungry, clear water and a crust of dry bread tastes GREAT, and you don't even care what the bread looks like that much.

The only bad experiences I've had are from faking an appetite I didn't have. It was my fault. I didn't have "sex." I sort of wanted to have sex, tried to fake it, came, and afterwards, the lousy part of the experience was all my own fault, nobody else's.

I've also had sex with partners who were totally, completely incompetent. I didn't care at all, because I loved them, and could compensate for their weaknesses. It's like being a good cook, appreciating a meal that somebody who likes you prepares, and screws it all up. You still like them, and you still eat. And it's still a good meal, even though they are hopeless in the kitchen.

Well, hm. [shrug]

Not as far as I am concerned!

So you have always had sex with people you love? What do you do if nothing can compensate for their weaknesses? Fake it?