Wow, that was good!

Is there any advice for the uncomfortalbe consequences of not being able to get off? Just deal with it, or relieve one's self?

Not sure if this relationship is worth going to counseling for. Guess that's something I'll have to figure out, and might in and of itself be part of why it's a problem : /

On a final note, I can put some pepper up my nose and make myself sneeze. I can also will myself to orgasm faster when I'm trying to get one off before I leave for work or something. That aside, your point that it is something that just needs to come (pun totally intended) is well taken.

We have tried that JM, but thanks for that insight. That's actually how the 2nd girl got it done with intercorse. 95% done by oral sex and 5% with intercorse, then weening off the oral sex until it could be 100% intercorse. It's just that damn elusive first hand job : (