I'm sorry Lafever, it's a bit hard to stay with this thread. Are you even READING what we're saying to you?

You're fooling yourself if you think that her "telling" you all this stuff is going to change anything. She's just bidding for sympathy. She's known this stuff all along -- and telling you about it * oh, sob, sob, poor, poor me * is evidence that she is buying time and is unable to pull up her own bootstraps.

In other words, she is USING her past to justify remaining "crippled" in the present.

If your gf is talking about suicide, slow or otherwise, she needs help from a professional. You are NOT the one who can help her. Why not? Because of your relationship with her -- just by being a bf and sexual partner you push more "reactive" buttons than "proactive" buttons.



PS: A lot got posted while I wrote the above, so please disregard if it doesn't apply anymore.

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