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Originally Posted by naughty  Lafever,
I am so sorry you are going through this. It sounds as if this person has some serious issues and at the very least needs counselling and even medication. But ....that does not mean that you need to be there for it. One good thing is that you are not married to her at this point. I am sure your feel paralyzed because of the strength of her reactions to things but you may need to try to find a way to back out of this. A person who is indulging in alcohol and drug abuse is not stable as you are witnessing. Is your daughter with you at this home? If so then it is very important for you to find a way to get out of there.
Osiris and Mem0101,
I read back through the poster's initial comments and didnt see any references to black women. Perhaps I over looked it, but be that as it may I am sorry that both of you seem to have had horrible experiences with black women. THere are probably many reasons for the experiences you had but, as well all know, no one group of people are monolithic. I do hope you are happy with whoever you have ultimately found to be a part of your lives.
P.S. I found it. Wow that makes me sad. Lafever. I do hope that you will not think all black women are like this particular woman. I am sure there are many who have problems but as we have heard from stories on this site instability comes in a multitude of colors. It is part of living in the world. |
He mentions in that rather long paragraph that she is "playing the race card because she is black".
I apologize if it sounded like I hated all black women. I had 3 great relationships with 3 very wonderful black women and they didn't work out for other reasons none of which pertained to race. I am a lover of all women, I just find that there is unfortunately a gross disparity between the well rooted, strong, secure black woman and the pushy "I'm black and you'll do as I say" type that seems to be the growing norm in most areas. We talk a lot about mentoring our young black men. Maybe we have failed our young black women when they see the likes of Lil Kim as a positive role model. If they have to pattern after a diva, I'd rather a Mary J. Blige.
Please accept my apology Naughty if I offended. I did not mean to in any way.