Lafever,

I am so sorry you are going through this. It sounds as if this person has some serious issues and at the very least needs counselling and even medication. But ....that does not mean that you need to be there for it. One good thing is that you are not married to her at this point. I am sure your feel paralyzed because of the strength of her reactions to things but you may need to try to find a way to back out of this. A person who is indulging in alcohol and drug abuse is not stable as you are witnessing. Is your daughter with you at this home? If so then it is very important for you to find a way to get out of there.

Osiris and Mem0101,

I read back through the poster's initial comments and didnt see any references to black women. Perhaps I over looked it, but be that as it may I am sorry that both of you seem to have had horrible experiences with black women. THere are probably many reasons for the experiences you had but, as well all know, no one group of people are monolithic. I do hope you are happy with whoever you have ultimately found to be a part of your lives.

P.S. I found it. Wow that makes me sad. Lafever. I do hope that you will not think all black women are like this particular woman. I am sure there are many who have problems but as we have heard from stories on this site instability comes in a multitude of colors. It is part of living in the world.