OK, rule one of relationships...

NEVER GIVE UP YOUR FRIENDS FOR ANYONE! END OF!

If your mate can't deal with your friends, that is very telling. My wife doesn't lke all my friends, but she would never tell me to ditch them and she even goes out of her way to find levels she can accept them on. THAT is how a true souls mate should work.

Now, being black, I despise people who arbitrarily pull the race card. I see it every day. It's people who do that that have set the case for those truly being persecuted back decades. It falls on deaf ears.

You still see something in her obviously or, I hope you would, have gotten out by now. It unfortunately sounds like you are at the rubicon of your union. There is no turning back. Your only choice is to sit down and talk and REALLY talk. Not for ten minutes, not as you are running out the door to work, but sit and talk for as long as it takes to get all the issues out on the table and at least a game plan to work on them. If you can't accomplish this, I think you know what needs to happen next.

Keep this in mind:

No one will take better care of you than you. If you find that person who does, keep them close always.

I know that is why my wife is here today. And yes, I understand as my wife is white and I am black and we too went through some of these things, just not on as dramatic a level. Mainly because we talked it out.

Good luck man.