Getting a one-bedroom apartment just for J/O w/STR8

It's not about trust, it's about the fact that I don't like sharing my bed. I'm a light sleeper and can't sleep very well when someone is in my bed, I could barely sleep freshman year of college in my dorm room because my roomate, who was my best friend, snored like a fuckin train. When I used to bring home girls i met at the bar, I could never sleep if they stayed the night, don't know why, I just can't, and the same goes with my gf. If we don't have some exhausting sex before we go to bed, I'm gonna be up all night tossing and turning if she's lying next to me. So it's not about guy, girl, straight, or gay, it's the fact that I can't sleep with other people in my bed, period. It's just how I am and I know I'm not alone on that one.

OH ok... from the post, it seemed like you just wouldn't share a bed with a guy... and it seemed more of a homophobia thing like what someone mentioned. NOW that you explained ...it doesn't come off that way. And I do understand and can relate to what you're saying. However, after a while you do get used to it. :) Then you find you cannot sleep well without the other person there. Like when they go away on a trip or something.

Best answer so far. Why waste time damaging a relationship with a straight friend when you can find someone's who actually interested in you the way you're interested in them?

Ya, there's nothing I like more than sleeping next to my girlfriend, even though I usually have to pop a couple tylenol PM beforehand, I think it has to do with stress, but it's always worth it in the morning though...she always seems to be at her peak horniness then lol

And that's where the magic is ...

I can understand that.

Yeah, I don't understand that as well. Why does it have be about some straight guy? Man, I have straight friends. Some are cute. Some are handsome. I am not EVEN going to waste time and emotions on some straight guy. They like women. They like women. They like women.

And I think that straight men would rather live with their girlfriends in a one-bedroom apartment situation.

This particular straight guy talks about women, has sex with women, but for years has put himself out there for handjobs and blowjobs ... takes what he can get.

Rooming with him might increase my chances, who knows.

I don't want a relationship with this guy and I rather keep this between two people, and since I only somewhat interested in guys, any other dude would make the whole thing complicated and that spark so far has show itself otherwise ...

Why, if a straight guy says does not want to share a bed with another man, would people assume he's homophobic?

Homophobia- "prejudice against (fear or dislike of) homosexual people and homosexuality".

Some men who don't want to sleep in the same as another man are no doubt homophobic.
But not all are. It's possible to be uncomfortable or uptight about homosexuality without being phobic about it. It seems like a bit of a knee jerk reaction to me.

OP- why not be up front with your friend instead of trying to lure him into something?

Probably because when a guy is str8 he will not allow himself to get into that type of situation ever unless there is no other choice. Right?

All this seems predatorial to me. But I guess you do what you have to do. Why don't you just try out those theories and see how they turn out?

Sexuality is one confounding topic.

I wouldn't share a bed with a lesbian if I didn't want to be known as a lesbian. how could a straight man ever convince a girlfriend he is not gay when she visits his house and he shares a bed with a gay man. why are you all offended that a man who doesn't have any attraction to men would be comfortable with that?

how would you gay men explain to your gay and straight friends that you are gay but you share a bed with a woman every night? snap out of the homophobia garbage and realize this isn't like sharing a tent while camping out. a bed is more than a place to sleep in your own place its intimate.

invisigenius had some awesome words of wisdom! and its posts like this that blow the whole "what's wrong withsharing a bed with a gay man" and " its all about trust" out of the picture. men a very sexual whether straight or gay and if you think there won't be conflicts of interest you are wrong.

if he's been sexual in the past then he's not 100% straight. but be honest with him and see if he wants to stay the night sometime for sexual fun. respect his wishes because the holy Grail of sleeping with a straight man will only break your heart.

I just read "another man" nothing gay or straight. Thats what I was asking about and he cleared it up crystal like :)

dont worry babe....there are many here who would share your bed!

I shared a room and slept in the same bed with a straight room mate for about 5 months. It was only for a temporary thing until something more permanent opened up. Neither of us were worried about sleeping in a bed with a guy, and it definitely beat sleeping on the ground. It was nice when the situation changed, just because you want your own space after awhile.