Has anyone here had a mid life crisis?

Just wondering. I hit 45 recently and it hit me big time. I seem to have gotten a bit crazy recently and feel like I have a point to prove. "Like there's still loads of life left in the old dog yet". I've been questioning everything about my life and so far have come up with no answers or solutions.

Has anyone been through this?

Yes I had one........and then I got over it...

Definitely! I think it's been happening to me since I was about 40 and I'm not through yet. All the time that I have a sex drive and feel fit I'll have something to prove. I know a lot of younger people (men and women) think it's a bit sad, but unless they die young, they'll be there sooner or later themselves.

I think the 'crisis', if there is one, comes when you start to lose confidence in your sex appeal. It's difficult to handle, but as I age I realise that I have become invisible to young people. I have had to reminded myself that I was always invisible to some people. But I'm still needy. I think we need to see ourselves reflected in the eyes of others. I guess we're here at LPSG because we need that interaction to keep us grounded some what.

Hi, Davey!

I'll be 50 this fall, and no, no mid-life crisis yet. Maybe it means I'll live way beyond 100, or haven't hit mid-life yet?...

Thanks for your comments guys especially invisibleman. I can assure you it's nothing to do with confidence . I just can't put my finger on it.

There's nothing to put your finger on. It's a natural occurrence. You're growing older (physically) but your mind, your thoughts, your interests, and probably how you generally feel are still just as young as you've ever been. Something in the back of your mind knows that in time, that divide will only grow. Don't fight it. Enjoy.

Go out and buy that little sports car you've always fancied, take that crazy vacation you've never had time for, get that "chopper" and ride the highways, buy that Fender and amp you've always imagined yourself playing... and enjoy the moment. There's no time like now.

A midlife crisis would seem to me to be a contradiction in terms to my quest for immortality.

Yes, I got a mid life crisis at about 28 and I got out of the corporate rat race. That was over 10 years ago and another lifetime for me. I changed lives not because I had something to prove (that's how I got into the mess in the first place) but because I didn't want to be 50 and have regrets.

Yet every once in a while I get that feeling that life is quickly slipping through my hands and I'm busy doing drudge work not enjoying life as fully as I could be. It does keep me up some nights. The useless mental anguish I've discovered is not really worth the lost sleep however.

I don't know what the answer is though Davey. Why this at 45? Maybe it's just knowing that you have fewer days ahead of you than behind you. But I always felt one's true age as the sum of your life experiences rather than how many times you've been around the sun.

Your life in Tenerife seems enviable to many, including me. Never underestimate the power of your friendships either. It works for me to get through an 'old dog' day. Eating well and laughing together with friends goes a long way for your sanity.

I see it much the same way. I feel my physical youth slipping away at a rate that dismays me although I still feel as young in temperament as I ever was. Or, at least, that's what I'd like to think.

That's exactly what all my neighbors seem to be doing: purchasing expensive distractions. Perhaps I should do the same.

If gaining weight and hair thinning are a crisis, then I am having one! Don't freak out, babe! You still look good! Most of you boys are holding well!

Who was it sang I get by with a little help from my friends?

My mid-life crisis came and I got over it by moving my ass out of life's routine ruts. It wasn't an aging body or slowing sex drive or slower mental capacities, those aren't much of a problem. It was more like, 'Is this all there is?' Life was slipping by so fast and every day was the same same routine. I was forty and and it felt like yesterday that I was twenty.

It still does, but I found that moving out of my comfort zone and tossing my life had the effect of slowing the passing of time down. When my days are full and challenging, they last longer. I can't explain it any other way.

I've had something like this for a long time. For one thing, I didn't enjoy my youth, for various reasons. I now have this desire to "make up for lost time", basically do all the things now that I wish I could have done in my twenties. (I also want to look like I'm in my twenties, and I actually can still pass for late twenties, although I do need to lose a bit of weight...and yes, I'm working on that, too!)

I also nearly died 5 years ago, and it really changed my outlook on a few things, although sometimes it's hard to see on the surface what those things are. I know what they are, though. I think my outlook has improved on those things since then!