I need advice...

I'm a woman in my thirties, and have had a range of different sized partners, but the guy I am dating now is EXTREMELY large. I have an 8 inch dildo and he's well over an inch longer and certainly wider. I almost threw it AWAY because it was so large that I never used it. I took it out and compared (because he let me). I thought we might have to call things off after our first sexual experience because I literally felt like a female Chihuahua trying to mount a Saint Bernard.

I'm pretty small to begin with... 4'11 and 110 lbs... He weighs twice what I do, and is 6'2, so our bodies are already quite different. We found a sexual position that works for us, him on top with my legs wrapped around his lower back...but I feel like he is not getting what he deserves...

He knows he has to be careful with me... as I can't quite accommodate his size, and I have actually injured myself, getting a little too carried away.

I want him to be able to throw a little more caution to the wind, you know? We both lead busy lives and travel a lot, so my experiences with him are about once a month. I am trying to 'gear up' for the next one, so that I might be better prepared for our rendezvous.

My questions are:

1. Does it get easier? Does regular sex with the same partner mean that eventually I can take more of him inside me? Will 'practicing' with a dildo or (possibly a clone of his penis ) help me at all? I actually bought one of those kits, and then realized I had to send in for more 'mixing powder' (for the mold and the dildo), because they don't give you enough in the standard kit. Has anyone tried this with their partner and seen a benefit?


2. Can ANYONE... PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE give me some pointers on how to perform oral sex on a large penis? The one time I have tried, I BARELY fit the HEAD of it in my mouth... and was having problem with teeth being in the way when I closed my mouth over it. IT WAS SO EMBARRASSING. Smaller guys I was able to do fine with; I even enjoyed deep throating, or using my hand on the base when I couldn't quite get all of it it, but my mouth is too narrow for him, and I have NO IDEA how to give head without being able to put the head of it in my mouth, let alone put at least part of the shaft in my mouth.

3. He doesn't use lube!!!!! I thought all men liked lube. I NOW know that this isn't the case. I made the mistake of trying to give him a hand job and used my favorite lube, and it was too slippery for him. He likes a firm grip, he says. OK... how do you masturbate without lube? I'm asking, not making fun... I'm a woman, I have no penis, I don't know how this works... LOL. Won't I HURT him without lube? Is it like pulling the skin back and forth instead of sliding over it?

ANY advice you can give me... would be SO helpful. I am desperate. I really like this guy. We've talked for about 8 months everyday, and sex is something I have never had to really worry about before, but suddenly, I am completely HORRIFIED that I will not be able to satisfy this man.

Also, any past threads you can direct me to would be fantastic.

Thanks!!!

it does get easier, but it take time.
I'm big and my wife is small.
After she had a baby, we didn't have sex for about 3 months.
When we did, I couldn't get inside her at all.
It took a lot of patience and lube to make it happen again.
While she drinks up my cock like it was teh elixer of life, she's not that get at head. That's ok though, because she gets an A+ for effort

Thanks for the encouragement, and the honesty.

ALRIGHT DAMNIT.....

There's a million members on here claiming to have LARGE PENISES.....

and not ONE of you wants to give a girl some ADVICE on HOW it's done??????????

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Is that the TRUE RATIO of posers on here?????

Sorry. That was bitchy.

It does get easier with time. You just need to go slow.

Using a similar sized object would help to accelerate the process.

If he doesnt use lube, you should say that you want to use it. he should oblige your request.

Thanks.... :)

When I said "he doesn't use lube"... I meant to masturbate...
therefore, he doesn't like hand jobs with lube, and I don't know exactly how that works without lube.... LOL. I don't want to insist on using lube if he isn't going to like it...

I don't really like handjobs with lube either.

You don't necessarily have to get him in your mouth for him to enjoy oral pleasures. Do what you can with the head, and just have fun licking, kissing, and sucking on the side of his 'shaft'.

Chances are sex is never going to be 'easy' between the two of you, but if you're both patient it can sure be a lot of fun.

1) It will get easier as time goes on. Also, try to get as horny as possible before sex, maybe even have him give you an orgasm orally first. Use lube, and don't fight the cock when trying to have sex, if you know what im saying. Tell him he needs to start out slower, and better yet, tell him these things you're having problems with, we hung men understand and usually have no problem adjusting and telling you what we like.

2)For oral, just be creative. Get into it, and enjoy all of it, you can use your hands too. Watch some porn for more pointers.

3)Ask him to show you how he jacks off. Then you can see how it's done without lube and without chafing. Just tell him he's really big and you're having trouble figuring out how to please him. He won't take offense, he'll probably be flattered and really happy you care so much. I'm sure you're satisfying him better than you think. It's a dick, we're men, and as long as you're paying attention to it and he's having orgasms, I wouldn't worry

It all takes time... when i first started doing the bottom thing...and i still do on occation. hahah :) I purchased a few toys. *you know..from small...to medium...to large...to OMG GET THAT THING AWAY FROM ME!!!* and I worked my way up. Maybe even incorporate the one just a lil smaller than him into the foreplay to warm you up for the main event. It'll be snug ride for him and still enjoyable without being painful for you. :)

*I know an ass isn't a vagina...but hey...I'm speaking from my experiences :)

** OH!!! and buy a couple that have the suction cup bases on them :) ...they make shower time MUCH MUCH More enjoyable. :) *not that i'd know first hand...*cough*

Take a cough drop for that tiny cough. Remember, last time you pulled the tile off the shower wall?

Have you tried the position where YOU are on top of him and can go at your own pace in trying to accomodate him? also it almost sounds like he is uncut or a heavy pre-cummer?? also remember that the skin on the penis is of a different type and usually the friction feels wonderful between the hand and the penis. friction=heat heat=pleasure!! good luck to you and your partner

First of all you sound HOT! Now back to business, it just takes time for this to happen. I have had the same problems but in reverse. If you really like this guy just take your time and slowly work at it. I'm sure that he wouldn't mind you jerking his cock or trying to suck his cock, that stuff is a real turn on for us big fellas. I have had my share of smaller women... I'm 6'7" tall and am 9 inches and pretty thick, So any way you look at it I'm large. It sort of sounds like your intimidated by his cock and almost worship it. When you masturbate try using all of you fingers in your pussy, remember to use a ton of lube! This may help you with fitting him in. About the head / sucking his big cock... that's a woman thing. I have no clue on how to do that. All I know it just feels really fucking good! If you need some help on how to do things please let me help you. you can IM me and I will get back to you. I hoped that this helped you in some way?

OK, as you've already understood, dialogue is the most important thing, and having an open relation where you can discuss those problems is GREAT!

ok, getting practical HERE... about the SEX, you have to work hard for it. DAILY exercises with a dildo, or something like a but plug - I suppose it would be a vagina stretcher - to help you open enough for him... but don't over do it. YOU still want to have control of your self.

the LUBE seams REALLY necessary. IF you're doing all of this for him, he could do SOMETHING for you too, so LUBE him up, and don't give a shit about what he says! ;)

ORAL SEX.. ok, this is the difficult part. you could relax for it, and try to get it in, so neither gag reflex or size issues occur... but as YOU said, he's as big as HELL, so that would be a problem...

KEEP us posted about on HOW it went! GOOD LUCK! :D

Hi sweety,

First of all dont worry about the lube for jerking him off. Guys I have been with have preferred it like that, even though if you do it really fast and hard their dick gets all red and swollen, apparently they like it ;)

as for accommodating him, i agree with the advice youve already had about working your way up slowly , try using your dildo every day then when you can take that really well, try slipping a finger in too ;) nice n easy, stretchy stretchy ..hehe.

Good luck wwith your big guy and have fun :D