I need advice...

Hi Sweety,

It's tough for me to provide advice since I don't know you, but I can provide some experiences I've had and perhaps there are some insights for you.

I'm pretty big - you can check my profile for photos - and it can be an issue. All the women I've been with have been able to accommodate me, though some better than others. By that I mean I'm always able to go in, but usually not all the way. I don't believe your petite size is much of a factor. When I was younger I dated a woman 5'-0" and 92 Lbs who was one of the few who could take my whole length, and she was my best sex partner. Period.

Because of my size I've learned to spend time on fore play to make sure my partner is plenty wet and ready to take me. Sometimes I bring her to orgasm before I go in, sometimes not depending on what she wants. A little KY jelly can go a long way to helping. I personally don't like too much as it seems to dull the sensations.

My wife is 5'6" and can't accommodate my entire length. It's a bummer because without going all the way in, I can't stimulate her clit via intercourse, so she or I need to digitally stimulate her clitoris in order for us to joint climax. The other factor is I love thrusting all the way in. I really miss it. Is it a problem? Yes. Is it a big problem that prevents us from being together forever? No. Many things go into a relationship, and the quality of sex is just one - albeit important - factor. My wife has many other wonderful qualities that I treasure her for.

I hope this helps,

Jack

ya it will get easier but youll need patience and not rush things cuz u dont want to hurt ur self

you should look into buying a copy of the kama sutra. there's some positions in there that might help you out.

do a lot of what i like to call (yes i coined this phrase) "bizarro kegels". just lay on your back for an hour a da with your hands grabbing your pussy lips and pull them apart with all your might. as a bonus, your arms will also be markedly firmer by ther end of the hour.

I haven't read it in ages (and my memory could be foggy) but the Kama Sutra also advises that "Horses" should mate with "Horses" (there are 4 classes of "size" of genitalia, horse being one of them).

No offense, but if you only see him once a month, is it a relationship worth going exclusive for?

Jack,

That's awesome to hear. It has been something in the back of my mind since we started seeing each other... I keep thinking, "is he going to feel like he's missing out if he can't thrust as deeply or as aggressively as he wants to".... and yeah, I know there are going to be things that aren't perfect, but it's good to hear someone in the same predicament tell me the truth.

I know that he cares about me, and we've talked about a lot of this stuff, I've just NEVER been with a guy over six inches... (which I thought was MASSIVE at the time). He's 9 inches, cut, and very very thick. Being my first experience with a predicament of this nature, I'm probably worried about this too much.

I suppose if I took pics and posted them, that would be obsessing a bit. LOL.

Ok, Sweetie, we need to talk. PM me or we can go hang out in the chat room and talk for a while - or go offsite.

And yes, you need something to strech you out with when he's not around. http://cgi.ebay.com/STAR-PERFORMERS-...QQcmdZViewItem

I have this model. It's the girth you need to strech out, more than the depth. Anyway, let me know if you want to chat.

LOL. You're hilarious.

Ok... I did have that same thought... and, I actually have been using the suction cup dildo (the one I almost threw away because it was 'too big'...lol) and it seems to be getting easier and more comfortable... and you're right... having a few orgasms before he penetrates me is definitely the way to go. I just have to remember that just because I'm really wet, it doesn't mean I'm 'prepared' to take him.

I think I actually am going to try the "Clone a Willy" kit. He is shy, but has agreed to 'amuse' me in this endeavor. I am hoping that this will be something I can practice on... maybe even for oral. Not sure if anyone's tried it, but from the reviews I have read, it clones everything.. down to the veins, since it's a latex mold.

It's kind of odd to me... the more I find out about him, sexually, the more I feel more confident about myself. I don't consider myself to be a boring sex partner, but I've really not been with that many guys, so I always thought I'd be the one 'learning'...

I guess maybe I am more kinky than I thought...

I was, and sometimes still am, intimidated by the size of his penis, but I've learned that it doesn't mean he's had more experience than I have... he may have had a few more partners than I, but he's never had a finger or a tongue in his ass... (I'm going to get yelled at for that, aren't I?).... and I think he almost fainted when I put his balls in my mouth the first time... things like that aren't really 'kinky' to me. LOL.

ANYWAY..... I BIG BIG BIG thank you to everyone who has been reading and contributing to this post. I feel TONS better about the situation, knowing that guys have a bit of understanding and sensitivity about the situation makes me feel like I'm not alone, and that it probably happens with most of the girls that encounter a large man for the first time.

You're all awesome.
Thanks!

It does get easier, but meeting once a month isn't helping move things along.

Sounds easier said than done, but relaxing more. Even so far as a light relaxant or a valium. Not for every time, but to move things along.

Lubricated condoms?

Us girls wouldnt object one bit if you did though ;)

LOL. I could really get into trouble on this site. You're all so much fun!