Dating a girl with a baby?

Dragon, sometimes you make it difficult to hate you. Not much more needs to be said than the above. The parts I bolded aren't optional, they're requisite. This may sound trivial but don't forget that there's a baby in the room if you smoke, curse, have a dirty mind, or any other characteristics that have no place in the presence of a child. Studies suggest that many men who disrespect a woman's child end up in the ER with a black eye, a busted lip, and sore testicles, and a bah-bah up the ass cuz babies can fight too!!

I have a question then...If the tables were turned how would you feel if you were the guy and the one with the custody of the child?

A man with the custody of the child? HA! What next, fair judges? Limitless natural resources? Santa Claus? It's cute that you assume a man could ever handle that kind of responsibility. I thought their involvement pretty much ended after conception, give or take a child-support check and holiday visit.

1. screw the pill and make her get the shot more reliable IMO that way she cant "forget it" and its easier for u to keep track of to.
2. ur what 19/20 i dunno but u need to remember that when u date soemone with a child the child is also a big part of the relationship.
3. if ur not ready to be seen as a potential father figure dont do it.
4. its really cool if u want to do this but its a lot of responsibility and unless shes the party'n type she's more then likely to get pissed if u wana go party with ur buds. Some women jsut are that way unfortunatly.
5. if u really wana do it then do it.
6. oh and if u think about the child as jsut draggin you down then dont even consider it.

Follow your instincts man, if it feels right then why the hell not

If you're talking about taking her to dinner, a movie, and getting into her pants, why not? Go for it. The baby doens't make any difference.

If you're thinking about more than a date, you need to sit yourself down with a big pad a of paper and answer some questions. There will be times she's can't do things with you because of the kid. Place you cant go. You OK with that? Is it OK, that you'll need to get home early to the sitter. She'll need to spend money on the baby instead of herself. Fewer hair and nail appointments, fewer sexy outfits. What about you taking a backseat to her baby? Are you ready for all that? You ready to settle down? House? PTA? What about runny noses and diaper rash? Ready to switch the TV from ESPN to the Cartoon Network?

If you're not ready, you need to walk away. It's the right thing to do.

If you really think you can handle it, go for it. It can be a load of fun.

Excellent answer, very well stated.

I was thinking just that same thing. Perhaps if he cares that much what his friends think he is not ready for the level of maturity required to date a single mom.

Thanks everybody. I was telling my dad the other day that I'm ready to be a father myself. This way, I could have the feel of being a dad without actually being a dad, and if it turns out that I'm not ready for that, (I'm 22) then I can just let her know that and move on. It sounds bad but I'm willing to put all my effort to make this girl feel better and more comfortable about being a young mother. Ugh. I really love her. That's the only thing.

for so long I was uninterested in being a daddy substitute for "loser spawn", but I have changed my mind about it.

Kids dont bother me, if I feel the mother raises them right. I dont want to deal with a spoiled brat.

you are to young. you must work, and go to school and play with your friends and bang chicks.
You are too young for any relationship if you have to ask.
For some reason SHE got pregnant before. Hang around her long enough and YOU WILL BE financially responsible for her spawn. Then when you tire of her, because you will, (and she, of you) you be paying for it. and you wont like it.

In a move of jackassery, I have not read any other posts.

My main questions is: Is her body still almost perfect? If so, proceed. You know she puts out.

Is there an internet janitor that can sweep up irrelevant comments like this that self promote and say nothing else in the midst of a serious discussion.

The internet is serious business, after all.

By your comments you think you "love" this young woman but not her child.

Walk away.
If you love her, love her child.
Nothing will screw up a child more than not feeling loved and accepted by the man of the house.
It fosters all sorts of resentment and negative attention seeking behavours later on.
The kindest thing you can do is let this lass find someone else who can accept both of them without reservations.

How can he love the child yet? He hardly knows it, and it is very young.

In my personal experience, it is very hard to love a 1 or 2 year old. Once they start talking, they get neater.