Fellow straight guys: Watching another dude jerking off is hot?

There's a big difference between what gets a man hard and who a man wants to fuck.

I think that a man can be 100% straight in preference (prefers only women for sex), but not 100% heterosexual in orientation.

There's a difference, by the way, between "sexual preference" and "sexual orientation." Look it up.

A lot of men like to see big penises. Period. Being a man, in most cases, means being attracted to one's penis and to the ones considered to be "ideal." If a dude can get hard over his own penis, I'm sure he could get hard over someone else's, too, particulary the more "ideal" ones you see in porn.

I find it bizarre to what great lengths men will go to show their distaste for the male body and the penis, but yet sit with their buddies during a porno and exclaim "Wow, he's a hung stud"!

Supposedly, in American culture, to declare one's heterosexuality as a man is to show one's aversion to the male body and penis. If that's the case, then why don't most men get repulsed by their own penises and bodies? Why do they work out? Want to look handsome? Build muscles? Be bodybuilders? And last but not least, want to watch pornos with monster cocks?

It all begs these questions:

1)Why are "big dicks" so celebrated in heterosexual porn if they're just "necessary" props?

2)Why don't men just watch lesbian porn if they are so turned off by the male physique and other penises?

3)Why don't men get turned off in general from the own penises when they masturbate (well, some may)?

4)Why do men worry about their size of their penises and other men's?

I almost forgot to mention the "Fuck my wife/Bang my wife" niche in porn. Isn't that genre really about a man getting off on another dude's studly image to some degree? Sure, he probably wants to see the hot woman's body and imagine having sex with her, but is that all that he's thinking while viewing?

Finally, for culture's sake, we will say just about anything to not be affiliated with the things that are most taboo in our culture.

And some guys even like to lick out their wife after another guy has fucked her. What do we make of that? Most swingers don't consider that to be "gay" behavior. A lot of gay guys would disagree.

More and more I agree that labels like straight and gay are to some extent an artificial construct. Once you label yourself one or the other, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy to act the way you perceive yourself to be or the way you represent yourself to others, rather than just be in the moment.

A lot of guys on this site list themselves as 100% straight 0% gay. I don't want to offend anyone or start any flame wars so please hold your fire, but 0% anything is really high hurdle. So if you were in jail for 20 years and hadn't had sex in all that time and were horny as hell, you'd turn down a blowjob from a guy? If you wouldn't turn it down, I don't think the 0% applies even if you're not attracted to guys. I'm not sexually attracted to women, but I can't imagine ever turning down a blowjob.

Although I haven't had sex with a woman in years and don't plan to, I listed myself as 99% gay, 1% straight because I know under the right conditions anything is possible. Mostly because I know how horny I can get. LOL

I also know there are some really beautiful women in the world that I have turned and looked at on the street etc. Again I don't fantasize about sex with them, but obviously I must be attracted to the on some level or I wouldn't have looked.

I think the guys that list themselves as 99% straight 1% gay are probably the straightest guys on here, because they have the self confidence to admit that under extreme conditions it could potentially happen and they don't feel like they have to prove anything. Saying you're 0% gay almost seems like you're trying too hard. Again, just making conversation -- not singling anyone out or passing judgment.

I've never researched it but I hear there is a famous Hugh Hefner quote that says if you're bisexual you double your chances for a date on Saturday night.

There is a porn actor in Vegas called Dean Cox. His girlfriend encouraged him to get into gay porn. The article I read said he doesn't like the label "bisexual" and just prefers to be called "sexual." I've thought about that a lot since reading that and I think he's really on to something there.

Labels are useful to keep people from wasting their time, and to set boundaries. But I think we need to recognize that labels also have limited usefulness and sometimes can be a negative. And as we all learn more about ourselves and about the fluidity of human sexuality, labels will continue to diminish in importance.

FWIW, YMMV, etc.

Upon doing more research, I would like to amend my previous statement. I found the following quote on another thread and I concede he has a good point --

i dont think its hot to watch another man jack off...it might just be me, i dunno

If you don't find it hot, you don't find it hot.

I never watch jack-off videos or gay porn, but I'm not 100% straight because men can turn me on in certain conditions (I'm very homoemotional as well).

Example: Men talking about women's bodies turns me on
Watching me with women turns me on
Men talking about penis size turns me on
Showing my men my penis turns me on


But, yet, I don't crave men that much for sex. It's weird, and very hard to explain. Everyone's sexuality is unique. There really doesn't need to be explaining.

Most of these 'straight' responses are totally gay.

I don't think gay men get off watching women masturbate so why would a straight man get off watching another man masturbate?

Straight men want to see pussy, not cock, and if they do want to see cock it's when it's filling a hot pussy. For gays it's all about the cock, for straights its all about the pussy. Life is simpler than we make it!

no, for this gay it's all about the ass, not the cock. never enjoyed beating off with other guys... maybe i'm turning straight, like haagen dazs, eeek!

No, human sexuality, I'm afraid, is not at all that simple.

How can most men not like penises, considering they have one themselves? Many are turned on by their dicks, so why not the ones of others they find attractive or idea?

The straightest men are trannsexual lesbians.

[quuote=hungjosh]The whole idea of and if they do want to see cock it's when it's filling a hot pussy.[/quote]

Then, why not just watch lesbian porn and get those disgusting penises/male bodies out of the picture?

funny how this thread died

I gather that calling out anyone who likes to watch guys jerking off as gay, kind of put the chill on the intended audience/discussers of the subject.

Consider it revived. Sometimes I'm straight, sometimes not so much (), but whatever mode I'm in, I'm inclined to enjoy watching a good jerkoff. Sometimes it turns me off, though. I guess it depends on how hot the action is.

So many people seem to think they know how all straight men or gay men think and feel. There are probably as many different reasons and levels of arousal as there are men. But I don't really know for sure. Or care.

If a guy isn't turned on by another guy jerking off, ok. If he is, ok. Why the need to justify feelings?

But show me a large cock and my own cock gets hard. My wife says I have a penis fetish. Probably true. And I'm so grateful for it! Not all my friends understand it, but hey, you can't please everyone (no matter how hard I try--or get).

I could only get off if the video focused on the cock and not the man. But, I do not watch these videos I usually like hj and bj movies w/ women in them and like larrynkd I would say I have a penis fetish.

No. For your gay guys out there: watching another guy jerk off is NOT hot. And no, I don't want a J/O buddy.

Jack