Originally Posted by technopeasant

No, this is not a common problem with average size guys. Hitting the back is the key. It is because that big torpedo of yours is banging and brusing her cervex, and streaching and tearing at the suspensory ligaments that hold her vagana in place. If that's the cause the gyno is just going to tell you to be more gentle and don't penitrate so deeply this is especially so if she has a retrograde uterus, they are common and protrude more into the vagina. A brused cervix is extremely painful. If she puts up with it she is aglutton for punishment and she may not put up with it. Most women don't like pain, do guys? Guys who are hung like a horse should not assume that roughness is equal to pleasure (actually no one should). She will also probably enjoy it more if you don't hurt her.

One secret of being a good lover is to push the right buttons and leave the wrong ones alone. Her cervix is a wrong button, hitting the back is a wrong button. Orgasm for a woman comes from subtile stimulation of the clitoris, no direct pressure to start with and touch it directly only when she says she is ready. Once you are really experienced you can tell when. The other is to stimulate the "G" spot about 3-4 inches inside her vagina repeatedly. I found a number of years ago that if I thrust about 7 or 8 times shallow and go deep once for those seven or eight times that it sends my wife through the roof. She has multiple orgasms that she says are very satisfying, much more than a clitoral orgasm.

Suggestion, learn to thrust 3/4 the length of her vagana as vigiourously as you want then much more gently thrust in until you touch the back. Go no further. This will require some practice but it has a good rythum. Try 1-2-3-4 shallow and 1 deep or 1-2-3-4-5-6-7-8 shallow and 2 deep, you get the idea use your own formula, but remember to slow down for the deep thrust. You will stimulate her immensely and you will have the satisfaction of going in as deep as you can without hurting her. You will have her climbing the walls and she won't hurt afterwards and sooner or later depending on circumstances you will orgasm, then you can slow down and go gently deep then and both of you can enjoy it. I know this requires some discipline on your part. Explain to her what you are trying don't tell her what's supposed to happen let that be a suprise. I also know that a woman squeeling in multiple orgasms under you is a real thrill.

This is all unless of course she is a masochist in which case poke on.

But I don't think she is, she has told you that it hurts when you go so deep.

P.S. Slowing down has the added advantage of giving you more control.