Originally Posted by musclebutt2

Let's put it this way, condoms and oral sex might be helpful two minutes before intercourse in keeping him hard, but really ineffective as a form of foreplay. The risk for HIV transmission from sucking cock is minimal... miniscule actually, because the saliva filled environment in your mouth is hostile to foreign invaders. The HIV virus itself is fragile outside of the bloodstream. If you have a cut in your mouth, gingivitis that causes gums to bleed, have just brushed your teeth, or a herpes mouth sore, DON'T HAVE ORAL SEX. Look at the cock before you put your mouth on it. If it has funny spots, lessions, cankers, sores, discoloration, warts, bumps, tears, cuts, discharge, smells, or anything else that catches your eye, ask the owner what it is, but ultimately, follow your gut instinct; if it looks funny to you, DON'T PUT IT IN YOUR MOUTH! It is your pjerogative to say "No."

It is much more common to catch gonorrhea or chlamydia from oral sex than any other STD, but that's just a fact of life. There is a chance of syphilis as well but not as high as the former. Note that all of these are curable with syphilis being the most painful and inconvenient cure. Of course there are warts, herpes, and possibly hepatitis but the first two will be usually very obvious with a visual inspection and the latter is, again, a crap shoot. Get your Hepatitis shots people, it's common sense.

Now, you have to find out what your comfort level is concerning STD's and the chances of catching them when doing any type of sexual act. Even condoms are not 100% effective against anything. Oral sex to me is sacred and I almost never use a condom; however, I understand that I am at risk of gonorrhea and chlamydia. I am not as worried of catching HIV through oral transmission because it is almost unheard of. I swallow, but to be honest, I don't play with cum from Poz partners. How do I know any of my partners are being truthfull about their HIV status? I don't, but if anyone is taking medication for anything, you WILL be able to taste it in the cum as extreme bitterness and/or a medicinal flavor. I usually immediately spit it out, and gargle with Listerine. Again, I am not you, I don't know how sensitive your tastebuds are, it is your comfort level to risk and danger that must be assessed in this situation.

I prefer having sex with a light on. I enjoy looking at my partner and it makes inspecting genitals for symptoms easier. I can always turn the light off after the inspection. I always ask my partners about their sexual history and the date of their last STD tests before having sex; again, people lie... a lot. But being honest and communicative usually inspires the same from your partner; which leads to how you pick your partners. Follow your instincts, don't sleep with asshole pricks, and ask yourself this: how well do you really know the person you are going to sleep with? How much time have you spent with the person and can you really trust anything they've told you? And ultimately, can you live with yourself the morning after with the decisions you have made? Your sexual safety is a personal issue and there will always be risk involved; it is your choice and pjerogative to balance fun with responsibility. Don't be scared of oral sex without a condom but find out what works for you.

I regularly get tested for HIV every six months and all the other STD's every 3-4 months. I am very sexually active but not promiscuous; I prefer to play with a handful of longterm fuckbuddies. I have sucked many a cock and 97% of the time without a condom. I have contracted and been cured of oral gonorrhea and chlamydia a total of four times combined over a span of 14 years. Those are the odds I play with and I am comfortable with that. I am HIV negative.

Just for perspective, 80% of American women have HPV but many don't know it. The majority of heterosexual men are unaware of this. Please tell your partner if you have HPV and allow him to decide to continue on with intercourse or not. As a carrier, he will pass on HPV to other unsuspecting women. My peer group is in their mid 20's to mid 30's and an alarming number of my young female friends are diagnosed with complications related to cervical cancer (most likely related to HPV).

Sex is fun and healthy, keep a balanced head on your shoulders, logoff LPSG and do some research, & don't let the Puritans scare you into abstinence.