If your friend told you he was gay....

Don't get caught off guard. Faithful folks like to fuck too. Damn, all of the good black men are either extinct or gay? I didn't get the newsletter

I wouldn't feel anything or change anything we will always be friends

I would be way more upset if one of my friends told me he was straight.

Great encouraging responses..,heck, I wish all of you were my friends.

One thing I think is certain is that if a person does not have an issue with their own sexuality..than neithe rwould the other person..

Make no difference to me. Many of my friends are gay.

I would have to go shopping. I'd also talk about lots of fabulous stuff. But... all my close male friends are gay, so my opinion is from a swayed opinion.

If a friend came out with that I would be very supportive of him and if he was a true friend I would love him just the same as before I knew this.
I can't imagine a friend walking away because of such information. Loyalty is sacrosanct bar none.

I think I would be very understanding and let him know that it didn't matter to me.

I'd be glad he thought enough of me to be honest...

But that would be the very reason I would NOT want to come out of the closet. While I must admit that I can identify with some of the gay steriotypes. I am very much a guy...with a large male ego. Shopping or
"Antiquing" with the girls or even with the guys... would be very much an emasculating experience for me. Yep...have to admit...its a male ego thing...

I don't even think that you can deal with those things until someone actually knows about your sexual preference. You can't keep yourself in suspension because of how other people feel or behave toward a particular subject. You just have to muster that strength that so many of us had to find and deal with all of those things when you get to them. Obviously a tangible support system would be cool. It might take a minute to comprise one but it's not impossible.

I was just referring to being a victim of the 'gay steriotype of being effeminite . When a person comes out..its so easy to be a victim of
that...and that is so UNfabulous!!!!!

There was a lad in my class at school who I didn't see for a few years after we all left. When I met up with him again he told me he was gay and I was bloody thrilled (I think I was born to be a "fag hag"). We used to have THE best times when we went clubbing, then he moved away because it was a small town and his parents turned against him. I miss him sooooooooo much!!

That sucks. I hate to hear that someone has lost a friend. Maybe you could find him and relive some of the good times that you all had. It could be greater than before since years have passed now.

I feel you. I understand where you're coming from. That the shit that we just have to "will off" of ourselves and out of our lives. UN is so right.