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Originally Posted by jason_els  Most men my age and older tend to see younger guys as self-absorbed and flaky with little in common. They look for experience rather than the ability to pound ass for hours at a time. Daddies are a wary bunch, having frequently run into younger guys who have way too many issues or are just looking for a free ride only to get dumped for another younger guy.
If you want to attract these guys then try to put yourself in their place and, above all, be patient. Spend time with them, be honest, and try to be sensitive to the fact that many of these guys have been burned. Character will get you everywhere. |
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Originally Posted by Lex I have found that there is a group of men who specifically look for younger men to date (or just play with). It depends what you are looking for quicksilver, but I have never had any trouble meeting older men who liked younger men (not exclusively, but who were open-minded enough to consider dating someone whom they found attractive). |
Thanks for the advice guys. I think you are totally right. I will admit the older men that I have chatted to or hooked up with are always very surprised once I open my mouth and start talking and they realise that appearances can be deceiving and I am not your average, flighty, young guy. It's just getting to that part that I find hard! Part of the problem is that I am quite shy so find it very hard to approach someone in a bar even if I am salivating with lust. I am trying to work on it but it is very difficult.
I have recently started going to bear bars/club nights and it can be very intimidating being the "odd man out". I find that a lot of the gay scenes can be ironically very exclusive and not inclusive and a lot of the time I think we judge books by their covers. I tend to get a "fuck of twink" vibe, which can be very off putting... I have just come to the conclusion that I will not be able to get the men I am most attracted to for another 10 years when I am closer to their age!!
I will definately try DaddyHunt as I do find I have more success online then I ever do in a bar/club.
But its not all bad and every once in a while I find someone who is interested. I do think appearance has a lot to do with it, and that the men I really like are attracted to the same things I am and therefore I am simply not their cup of tea. I have a friend who I go out with who is only a year older than me but much hairier, stocky and bearded and he literally has to fight them off the lucky bastard. Curse the gods for making me slim and pretty!
