Dads and Sons/Boys

This kind of relationship is not at all different from the older man/younger woman that is pumped into the brains and psyches of straight men. The Dad/Son/Boy, Coach/Player, Bear/Cub, Sir/Boy dynamic is a male version of the Man/Cheerleader, Teacher/female student dynamic and fantasy that permeates a lot of porn.

My man is 10 years older than me and I know a lot of couples where there is an age difference of more than 2-3 years. The age difference is not a big deal at all.

The other thing to consider is that age is not what makes someone a "daddy" or a "boy/cub/pup." Attitude and chemistry between two people is key.

As Indy has said, he looks like a daddy but is all boy on the inside. I look and act more boyish most of the time and definitely have my daddy tendencies. If I am around older, more mature men, I fall into a more cubbish role by default. Similarly, when I am around younger men, I assume a more mature, "daddy" type of role.

I also have a buddy who is the daddy in his relationship, even though his BF is 5 years older than he is (46-51). they work out together and are both in phenomenal shape.

Cool stuff -

How many have been an older dudes muscle project? Take a younger guy and build him up into a real muscle giant?

Sounds fun.

Do you get to choose what your swimmer wears to the beach?

I see 1BIGG1 spends very little to no money on his young conquests. I guess they really don't need to ewar clothing!!

And nothing at the beach is fine as long as the bod is striking!

Now I never said that! I just meant when you have a mate with a body you adore there’s no sense in keeping anything more than what’s absolutely necessary covered up!

Regarding attire, he can buy & wear whatever makes him happy!

I am a younger male who is almost exclusively attracted to older men. My first adult serious relationship was when I was 23 and my partner was 41, and my other relationships have all had a 10-20 year age gap. I get teased by my friends a lot because they swear I don't even notice anyone under 35 in a bar! But they are right for the most part. I think it's for a couple of reasons a) I have always been mature for my age b) the characteristics I find attractive in men - masculinity, ruggedness, beards, hairy chests, salt and pepper hair - all tend to happen to men as they age. (Or as men get older they decide to opt for a beard and/or stop shaving/waxing their chests)

My biggest frustration is that these older, rugged, manly men all tend to go for older, rugged, manly men.. So being a boyish, young and failry "pretty" male, my objects of lust tend to just completely ignore me. The few that I have found who are attracted to younger guys have been fantastic and fulfilling experiences either simply sexually or more (friendship and relationship)

I have only very recently gotten into Daddy/Boy roleplay with a fuckbuddy of mine and it is very hot and enjoyable. There is a definately a dynamic there that I as a "boy" find very satisfying and comforting as well as hot and horny. Now if only I could find more bears/daddies/muscle bears that like slim and cute!!

We do exist!

Most men my age and older tend to see younger guys as self-absorbed and flaky with little in common. They look for experience rather than the ability to pound ass for hours at a time. Daddies are a wary bunch, having frequently run into younger guys who have way too many issues or are just looking for a free ride only to get dumped for another younger guy.

If you want to attract these guys then try to put yourself in their place and, above all, be patient. Spend time with them, be honest, and try to be sensitive to the fact that many of these guys have been burned. Character will get you everywhere.

I have found that there is a group of men who specifically look for younger men to date (or just play with). It depends what you are looking for quicksilver, but I have never had any trouble meeting older men who liked younger men (not exclusively, but who were open-minded enough to consider dating someone whom they found attractive).

Try DaddyHunt. Or your local Bear/Leather Bars as that is where you might be able to find a crowd that includes more mature (35-60), blue collar types.



Great points, Jason. There is a bit of caution with anyone who has been burned before and there is the feeling that younger people are not "ready" for a relationship. I have been on the other side of this as a "younger" man who was ready and ran into older (read: 40's) men who told me repeatedly that I was not.

As Jason noted, put yourself where they are, be patient, honest, forthcoming, put out the positive energy you want to attract and someone will show up in your life.

I have the same problem. Can't tell you how many times I've watched a hot guy pass me by for someone his own age!! Anyway, it just makes the hookups that workout all the sweeter!

How does one go about finding a "dad"?

U lookin for one izzle?