Some men dont take no

I flirt equally with everyone; men, women, straight, gay, married, single. But it's just that... flirting, and it's harmless. It's never pushing people towards unwanted sex. (BTW, not that there aren't some people here that I'd totally have sex with. )

On the flip side, the 100% straight crowd must understand, that behind the scenes, in PMs, emails, etc., there is a LIST of 100% straight guys, that hit on other guys. Not that it excuses anyone's behaviour, but you can see why a 100% straight label in a profile, is not always taken at face value.

People should take generic and harmless flirts as the compliments that they are. When it pushes past the "Hey, you/it look(s) nice" comment, and moves toward harassment, that's not attractive from anyone, even if they would otherwise be your "type".

the unwelcome advances I mentioned earlier happened in real life, not online...

I'll admit that we have 3-somes. But ONLY 3-somes. As soon as people ask either one of us to go solo and that they won't tell, all the conversations stop. Some keep asking, and they just don't get the hint.

Real life is even worse. The perpetrator can see what they're getting and get to enjoy the reality of breaking up a relationship.

what's worse is getting hit on by married people...
married women have been the most relentless...the married guys usually give up quickly after I shoot them down....but the women find it very hard to take no for an answer...2 have even offered to leave their husbands...

I'm single myself, but I'm also VERY selective and I don't just hook up with anyone...I'm kind of a loner and I think that might be what's so attractive to people...

I just ignore them. It works.

That's why I'm in no rush to get married. A ring doesn't guarantee fidelity or loyalty. It often means many other things than what it's supposed to mean.

Oh you poor poor things! Getting hit on is so awful for you. Yeah, right!
If u didnt get hit on you'd be fucking devastated - partner or not.

What bothers me is when they turn abusive after you say no. I had an experience last week where two separate men wanted to cyber and I didn't want to. They happened to be in chat with me at the same time one day and attacked me. Called me names and were real assholes.

Then a person I thought was a friend told me "well, you kinda deserve it". He told me I was a cock tease and a flirt.

I think flirting is harmless, especially on the internet. If you say no to someone, you'd think they'd have enough pride in themselves to not continue with trying to get what they want.

^The harmlessness of flirting is theoretical, it being harmless to you doesn't mean its harmless to the recipient and can even come back to bite you in the ass. As you yourself have expressed, there's no telling how the person you're flirting with takes it and how they'll respond. It's only harmless when both people are mature enough to understand the situation and maturity isn't one of mankind's strongsuits.

I guess assuming someone is adult enough to understand flirtation shouldn't be a given.

And BINGO was his name-o! Fuck yes, the biggest fault of mature people is assuming that everyone else is as mature. Maturity and understanding are rarities in people, however horniness is commonplace so put immaturity and horniness together and you've got a world full of horny morons and stalkers and people who enjoy breaking up relationships.

it's not getting hit on that's the problem - i take it as a compliment...
the problem occurs when you reject someone's advances and they continue to harass you...

the reason is because all men are pigs including myself