Some men dont take no

Hi, Jason. I think I am of the same generation as you are. What is interesting to me is how many articles, including one recently published in the NYTimes, suggest that the gay 20-somethings, have more in common with their straight peers than they do with older gay men in regards to social/moral values. For instance, guys of our generation are more likely to enter into monogamous relationships than our older gay counterparts. 'No, I am in a relationship already' is heard as a 'no' instead of 'I am just playing coy, so keep bugging me.'

This has been true in my experience. I am in a monogamous relationship, which seems to be a trivial point to older gay guys, who are of a generation where open relationships were, and still are, the norm. Psychologists suggests all sorts of reasons for this, but my take is that older gay men were rebels at the time they came out and experimented, as opposed to when we came out, which was largely after homosexuality had a wider exposure in the media. In other words, the world of homosexuality was much less taboo for us than for them. Another reason may be due to the fact that when you and I were growing up, the spread of HIV/AIDS was very much discussed. It was drilled into my head that abstinence and/or monogamy would be the only way to survive.

The only wild card on all this, is late bloomers and/or men who grew up in small, rural towns, where it is still like growing up in the 50s in regards to the social/moral values impressed upon them. They seem to be much more willing to mess around with lots of partners, perhaps because of the taboo-nature of the act.

My final thought on this matter is that it seems to me that the more a person truly excepts their sexuality (of any kind) and the more comfortable they are in their own skin, the less they will be seeking multiple partners. People who try to suppress their sexuality in any way seem to have sex-related issues. To play devil's advocate with myself, I should also say that I frequently envy friends of mine that are much more free with their sexuality. I often wish I did not feel so inhibited. Maybe, I am the one who has not come to terms with his sexuality!? This is food for thought anyway!

^Uh-uh, don't put this all on the older crowd. In the 3 years that my boyfriend and I have been together, not only have people pursued him and I, but it's young guys who KNOW we're in a committed relationship and go out of their way to try to wedge in between that. Young guys are just as messy, manipulative, conniving and insistent as older guys, and worse they have youth appeal on their side and use it to milk every ounce of cum they can from married and partnered men.

wow excuse you!! its not like the married men are beating them off with a stick or anything its not all the womans fault and who are you to be callin anyone a whore! im not saying there arent whores but there are man whores too

he didn't say "female" whores who sleep with married men...he just said whores...that's not a gender-specific word...

PS: I love ur avi!

Excuse me for what? I never implied that the partnered party is innocent. I was once partnered with someone who carried on a 6 month affair so I perfectly well understand both dynamics, I was simply addressing one side. I could tell you about all the kinds of hell I wish on the partnered men or married men's role in affairs and cheating but that would take a whole nother website. I'll call it lyingimmaturebastardswhowanttheircakeandeatittoand can'tbehonestwiththemselvesortheirpartnersandtheir victimsshouldbecompensatedandtheyshouldbejailedfor crimesagainsthumanity.com

I would visit that site often! LOL

Yeah, my comments were one-sided but not intentionally so. I personally think there's hope for people who enjoy breaking up relationships. To me though, if you're the cheater, once a cheater always a cheater. Once you've shown that its in your character to do so, I'd be hard pressed to believe that you could control that behavior.

^I agree...
I just don't get cheaters...
how do you do that to someone you claim to love?

All I can say is sorry guys, I love you all from my 20% whether your str8, gay, bi, curious and my 80% to all the women.

I am just a tart

lol

Yeah I get hit on all the time from the "I wont tell anyone" guys who inundate me with emails over and over. Sometimes politeness doesn't work.

On the other hand, I've also done a little flirting (just ask Pendlum...). C'mon man, I wont tell anyone! LOL

Some people cant take no for a answer. This is true. I often wonder why.

I think it's in the nature of men not to take "no" for an answer.

Besides, you're "Safer" to flirt with if you're taken.

And, yes, it happens to me all the time.

I've gone back and forth over the years on whether or not to post photos here -- posting them, then removing them, then putting them back up -- and there's *definitely* a correlation between photos in the gallery and the fervor of the come-ons. And my pics aren't even racy, by LPSG standards.

I can't help but notice that most of the guys who are lamenting the unwanted come-ons in this thread are ones who have a lot of pics posted. If it bothers you that much, the simple answer is to remove your photos.

Steve

Steve26, I am afraid that's why I put my pics on... What can I say, I am a bit self centred.

Well I see it two ways. To an extent, it's possible to cheat on someone you love, this is where selfLESS love is separated from selfISH love. There are men who love because of what they get from the person, and there are men who love because of what they can give the person (not just material things but loyalty, honesty, etc..)

On the other side, in a sense, you either don't love someone you cheat on, or you love yourself more than you love them.

As far as the come-ons, it would annoy me but at the same time, what did you put pics up for if not for attention?