I need some legit help!

Hey guys, I just joined this group the other day and I was wondering if you people can help me out.

I really dont know my orientation and its really starting to get to me. Ive always grown up thinking that I want to have a family with a wive and kids, but I'm also attracted to guys.

I'm sexually attracted to guys, and as for women, I'm attracted more to their personality than their sexuality. Needless to say, its confusing and I really dont know what to think about myself.

Any insight?

I don't envy your position...
wish I could offer some concrete help, but I can't...
one thing I believe is whatever you think about when you're jackin, that's what you truly desire...so if it's mostly women you think about during that time, go for it...if it's dudes, then go for that...
but whatever you do, don't get yourself caught in a marriage to a woman while still craving men...that's not good for anyone involved...


just my opinion...

well welcome to the site first off. now to your question.


In my mind, sex is just sex. If I have sex with another man, then you have homosexual sex. If you have sex with a woman, then you have hetrosexual sex. Orientation is a fluid thing. IF you want to have a deep, meaningful, long term relationship with a man, and you enjoy sex with him....then you are gay. The same goes with a long term deep, meaningful, loving relationship, and enjoy sex with a woman, then you are straight. Just because you enjoy sex, weither it be with a man, woman, or both, you are not one way or the other. Enjoy life, love and sex man!

You dont have to make any hasty decisions about your sexuality, there's no hurry. You will naturally gravitate to the sexual partners you desire; just dont be scared or ashamed of it. Every gay person has been at the point u are. I dont know your age but whatever it is its never to late to set yourself free & be the true you. You'll know it & love it when u get there. Trust me. Loving womens personalities is a common trait amongst gay men, we just dont want to have sex with them thats all. x

Sounds like you are gay, you like guys sexually and like women as friends. Good luck.

A traditional lifestyle was never in the cards for me as I have known I was gay since a very early age. Thoughts of compromising my desires and settling down with a wife and kids went through my mind many times but I could never bring myself to living such a lie even though having kids sounded cool..

Today I support others kids both charitably (I give to several local and international organizations) and personally (I am helping one in college right now and have helped others in the past0. so I kinda ended up with a family after all.

I would have to agree with XCUZE we do sometimes love womens personalities and I use to question my sexuality cuz of that but at the end of the day I was still sexuality attracted to men and now I am 100% sure that I like guys, just experiment look at gay porn if it turns u on then there u go