a thread for those shot down

[sexplease]

Sklar... you sound like you're a tom lykus listner. I am.

Chasing people you're interested in is a gamble. sometimes you're shot down, sometimes ya end up having great hot sex(maybe even more than once), and sometimes ya end up with a great new friend.
Just try not to let the rotten apples on the ground keep ya from reaching out for the juicy ones on the tree.

[jjkrkwood]

Being shot down makes you grow thicker skin, and for those cocky, arrogant guys, it sorta humbles them. Its good to see sometime that not every person on earth is lusting after you. Sure it hurts your ego sometime, but life in general is unpredicktable, and YOU CANT ALWAYS GET WHAT YOU WANT.....

[eastbaydude]

Sklar, thanks.

"Actually, yes. You're really not my type but I'm trying to build up the courage to ask your incredbily hot friend out." OR "Yes, that was a pity hi."

I think I may use that line. In fact, all your lines were prtty good. Hey, you up for joining me one night and feeding me lines. Maybe we can pull a Cyrano e Bergerac thing.

[marluc]

Originally Posted by JasonDawgxxx

Never Ever get involved with a Bartender.They are T-R-O-U-B-L-E!!!

i'm curious! Why is that??! Please explain.

[yngjock20]

I've been shot down a number of times, but it's the worst because I'm usually not one to be the aggressor. The times that I have, I was uncerimoniously knocked off of my high horse.

It hasn't really deterred me from going after what I want, but like I said before, I'm not the one who goes up to people.

[marluc]

i'll come up to you youngjock cock GROWL

[morsecode]

Originally Posted by ChockoKittie

Laughing and just saying 'go away' are unacceptable unless you are meeting a woman at the end of her rope, which is possible depending upon setting (bar or club). But if you are approaching them in a respectful manner and not when guys are circling like sharks - the responses are hurtful. Ignore these cunty bitches, somewhere there is a woman who would love for you to say hi. Hope you give online a try too. Good luck!

Thanks for the nice response, I guess my social awkwardness doesn't help either. I've been giving a lot of thought at online dating, as I'm a little bit less awkward on writing, specially since English is not my first language.

[d-low1]

Originally Posted by eastbaydude

Guys -

Gay men are lucky. Those all sound like really good, valid excuses. You can't beat a committed relationship or being straight. Even prefering small Asian guys is a dead end street if you're not small and/or Asian.

Try going to a str8 bar and hitting on chicks...

"No thanks. I'm just here with some friends". Two minutes later she's giggling with some other guy.

"I'm here with my boy friend". Two minutes later she's giglling with her girl friends.

"I already have a drink" is her response to "Hi."

"What do you do for a living?" is her response to "Hi."

"Want to by me a drink?" is her reposne to "Hi."

"Who is your friend?" is her response to "Hi."

"You're kidding, right" is her response to "Hi."

There is a distinct power disparity between the sexes. Two girls or two guys are already on the same plaing field. Just once, I'd like to have the upper hand. Maybe I shuld hang out at bar next to the theater showing Sex in they City.

Ok, yeah, I've been shot down more than a few times.

This man has got it right. Or maybe it's just the fact that I've been shot down more times than I can remember that's swaying my opinion.

[whatireallywant]

I'm the flip side of the gay men who are interested in a guy just to find out he's straight. I'm a straight woman, and especially in my teens and twenties, most of the men I was attracted to were gay!

However, the one (straight) man I have met in my life who I feel that I could've been compatible with, personality-wise, plus I was attracted to him physically, and have even heard hearsay that he was very hung (!), was already happily married when I met him, so we were never more than platonic friends. I'm still torn up about this to this day, wishing I could've met him before he met his wife, things like that... I'm not compatible with many people, I mean, of all the men I have met, I have only felt that I'd be really compatible with this ONE.

[sexplease]

"May I buy you a drink?"
No thanks, I'll just take the cash."

[Sklar]

Originally Posted by sexplease

Sklar... you sound like you're a tom lykus listner. I am.

I've heard of Tom Lykus but I've never listened to him.

[marluc]

Originally Posted by whatireallywant

I'm the flip side of the gay men who are interested in a guy just to find out he's straight. I'm a straight woman, and especially in my teens and twenties, most of the men I was attracted to were gay!

However, the one (straight) man I have met in my life who I feel that I could've been compatible with, personality-wise, plus I was attracted to him physically, and have even heard hearsay that he was very hung (!), was already happily married when I met him, so we were never more than platonic friends. I'm still torn up about this to this day, wishing I could've met him before he met his wife, things like that... I'm not compatible with many people, I mean, of all the men I have met, I have only felt that I'd be really compatible with this ONE.

yep tons of women find me attractive and sometimes i entertain the idea of going for it. but i know i'm not 100% str8 or even 50% and i think i'll end up hurting the person. so i'd rather not.

[assman69]

I've actually never had a girl reciprocate interest. The idea of meeting one, having her over, and then rolling around naked with her is completely foreign to me. What does that feel like, not just the physical part but also knowing that you're wanted?

I stopped trying a couple years ago. It's even gotten to the point where I avoid interacting with females altogether to avoid the all the emotional turmoil. Now I just focus on academics. I figure that if bust my ass now and land a good career, at least there's the possibility that some woman - any woman - will be attracted to my money years down the line when I'm old and withered. That's all I could ever hope for. Of course hookers are an option, but from what I hear the sex is very mechanical.

[hootie]

This is a sad thread. I've been hit on a lot over the years. I just wanna be friends.

[15shooter]

Originally Posted by assman69

. . . Now I just focus on academics. I figure that if bust my ass now and land a good career, at least there's the possibility that some woman - any woman - will be attracted to my money years down the line when I'm old and withered.

At least the money will buy lots of Viagra!