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Originally Posted by Macketeer I'm cut, I don't like it. How do I accept it? |
You accept it by accepting it. This is not rocket science, Macketeer.
No one can tell you how to let something go.
You know perfectly well how to do that.
But now your identity is bound up in having this problem.
It supports your personal universe in a way.
There are certain things you can do.
You can let your mind see how good the motives were of those who did the procedure or allowed the procedure ... the physician and, presumably, your parents.
The physician wasn't trying to maim you. He bought into, I assume, the advantages that medical science at one time attributed to circumcision.
Your parents did the same.
With your parents, you might additionally remind yourself of all the other things they did for you, believing they were good ... and you can particularly focus on those that you appreciate.
And then you can reflect on just how great a disfigurement you actually suffered.
How do other circumcised men feel about their affliction? (I, personally, have never heard anyone complain about circumcision before, except on this website ... though I once knew someone who was apologetic about NOT being circumcised.)
You can force your mind, through this kind of exercise (which is Japanese, by the way), to see that what you see as an injury really isn't much of one, and that those who 'injured' you did so with total innocence.
You can also see that you receive far more support and help in this world than you're often apt to realize. (I don't mean just you ... this is true of everyone.)
And finally, you can give up this problem.
Trouble is, being human, you'll almost certainly find another one to put in its place.