Do you avoid sleeping with people, because you are afraid they will fall in love?

Yes...well, at least I think about it. I like to be wanted. I like that feeling. So I don't want to hold back. I want whoever I'm with to love me. I don't know how to be into someone enough to make sex great for them, then tell them that I don't like them that much. It's less a concern as I get older. I think the key is to just be honest with your partner and remain firm if he/she becomes attached.

I also wonder the opposite: Do any women avoid getting involved with me because they think I will fall in love with them? I'd hate to think that was true since I don't fall in love easily.

I must be living on a completely different planet. The majority of these posts make no sense to me at all.

A lot of people confuse sex with love. AlteredEgo made some really good posts about this in another thread. When I dated women, I was totally honest about NOT loving them if I didn't. I never said "I love you" just to get laid and I never said I was dating someone exclusively if I wasn't. With dating men, well, it has never been a problem (confusing sex with love).

Yes, I've been avoiding some problems lately. Frankly, I feel guilty when I see those 'loving eyes' and all I want is for the person to get out so I can enjoy my own company for a bit.

And, no matter how clear you are, people do get attached. Red flags all around when I get a call for a movie...

There's the other side of the coin too... not wanting to sleep with someone so I won't get attached.

oh well, life was never supposed to be simple, I suppose.

Sleep with?? Hell I avoid TALKING with people who seem like, after the first cup of coffee, they're ready to either marry you or burn your house down for looking at someone else. It's scary the way some people become obsessive and jealous AKA falling in love. Even if its not a stalking thing or jealousy thing, I think you're terribly naive if you fall in love with me just cuz we had good sex and is actually an insult to the many other things I offer.

I agree, I have to wonder if there are so few quality guys out there.

I've even gone as far as to warn the guy when we were thinking about going out. "look, you're going to fall in love with me, probably by the 3rd date, sooner if we hit the sack. I know you don't think so now but it'll happen and I would prefer that it didn't or if it does, you don't tell me."
I know there may come a day when it will stop happening but for right now, it is irritatiing.

NO, what am I a homo...oh wait...

Nothing worse than a "lingerer"!

U gotta have the balls to say "it's getting real late and I have to be up early, blah blah..." That goes for guys, girls, and inanimate objects period. Otherwise, go to there place and u can leave whenever u want by giving the same line as above.

Sorry to be crass, but this thread is a real perplexing look at human nature.

Yeah, it really scares me when people get too attached, like you go to their house and when you leave, before you pull out their driveway they're texting you,and when you get home they've sent u 25 emails and 19 instant messages. New age stalking.

Oh, and don't you dare go somewhere where you can't get a signal and your calls get forwarded to voicemail. When you get back into your coverage area you'll have 30 messages from them asking why you didn't pick up the phone and why you hate them and how much you mean to them and how much of an asshole you are and how sorry they are for calling you an asshole and begs and pleas to call them.