Ever Feel Sex is Overrated?

[quote=Drifterwood;1503560]Another good thread Earl

In one respect, sex is how we all got here and how, in one way or another, everyone will. So it is quite important.

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When sex is overrated, you are probably having sex with the wrong person or people.

I agree, that has at least been my experience.

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Personally, I have found sex to be the ultimate expression of the love that I have felt, and even when not love, my emotion and passion. Never use sex to get off - that's what your hands are for . Great sex is about giving and receiving, not taking. When you get it right, it certainly can't be overrated.

AMEN! The only time I have felt sex was overrated was when I wasn't getting any or I had an unpleasant or empty experience emotionally.

All that said, I agree with why you would post this question. Guys are sold and buy into sex for getting off - wrong wrong wrong.

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Sex without emotion is like a spell without a potion.

Interesting analogy I would say it's more like a pizza without cheese.

Amen bigbull! I haven't had sex in over 2 years now, and honestly, I don't really miss it. My hands and my toys keep me in good shape most of the time, though a few times a month I kinda go crazy and like REALLY REALLY want to be inside a woman. Those days suck lol. As you stated above, the things I miss most about being in a relationship are the intimacy, the love, the touch, the romance one experiences with another person. I am determined, however, that the next time I have sex with someone, that that person will be someone that I am deeply in love with, and could spend the rest of my life together with them. I want to make love to a woman, and have sex as sex was intended to be, the ultimate act of love. Once we get beyond the intitial acts of love making, then we can screw like bunnies, though passionate, love filled sex will still be a major part of our sexual relationship. I'm a romantic at heart, and want to swoon a woman, make her fall in love with me for who I am, not for my body or any other physical attribution I may or may not have.

Buffalo Girl

I'm a Marinara man.

I think it's because of sex that humanity is on the downfall it is. Could you imagine how much easier life would be without sex. If that co-worker wasn't sexy. If that young hottie didn't tempt you into cheating. Not to mention there'd be no emphasis on looks.

Sex is never over-rated in my personal experience. It probably is for those that allow it to become a preoccupation and obsession. Then I could see where comparisons would be made regarding good and bad, best ever, worst ever and so on could lead to disappointment and dissatisfaction.

No Girlfriends, sex isn't overated not having any is.

Do people who have a lot of sex or getting some always need to brag about it? As if you get points for sexual prowess in the game of life - even the guys on Viagra.

It seems to be about quantity like most things in America and never about quality. For me I'd rather have 5 gourmet meals a year than 100 Happy Meals. Happy Meal sex is sex just as some people consider McDonald's to be food but it rarely is satisfying. It just gets rid of the hunger.

I've had a lot of sex in my life and I got to a point where there were just too many Happy Meals. Sensual people are rare in my experience, people who I truly love to have sex with is also rare for me. Great transcendent sex is complex because it's about the energy, how the person looks, smells, talks, acts, feels and touches, and responds. But whenever I find someone like that I truly savor every bit of it and on those rare times sex transcends everything but for the many Happy Meal sex I've had I'd say it's overrated. And when people say it's not overrated because they have great sex everytime....they're probably kidding themselves.

I make an awesome marinara.

I need the whole nine yards. Sex and love are the best together because they create an intimacy that makes me feel whole and fulfilled. You can have one without the other as far as I'm concerned.

Sex is alright, but it's nothing to write home about. I don't get what empowers my entire gender to be so promiscuous since I can always sort of take it or leave it. That wasn't the case in my teens, I was all randy and ready to jump on anything that moved back then. Maybe I have a hormone/sex drive issue.

Couldn't have said it better

Well - 'here' - that's not surprising - the original raison d'etre of the place being the phallus, one of its main functions and the corrollaries therefof are bound to feature big.

In society - others have said it already, sex sells. So stuff is marketed to us using sex, we are conditioned to want sex, we want it more, more stuff is marketed to us with sex, and so on.

I don't recall many times in my life when I haven't wanted sex - just after childbirth and when I was borderline dying being the only two. But that's just me - I know I have a high drive. I used to find sex more pleasurable than masturbation so I would seek out partners to fulfil that need. I'm much better at masturbation now so I can go a long time without sex and only feel the need for the person I want to have sex with, not just the act of sex itself. I have never felt particularly bad about 'not getting any'. I have never felt lass valid in times where I have not been with a partner or been in a position to find a casual partner quickly.


No, not for me. I love being desired - it's wonderful. But it's not that important. I learnt very early on that being desired and being loved are not the same thing. Now I'd rather have both or neither. I used to go with just desire quite a lot - and I had a lot of fun with it, my priorities have changed now.

The effort put into it all is astounding. One can only wonder what if all that effort was diverted to philanthropy were would the world be?