Honest advice for anal sex

Hello Everyone!

Okay, I know there is a ton of posts about anal sex, but I really not "no holds barred" advice. My boyfriend and I would like to start to play anally..he has done it before, but I haven't. Mostly because my last boyfriends acted like little giggling boys about the subject...not exactly a turn on. But, also I honestly don't know what to do to prepare for it. I mean, our sex life is amazing and we have sex very often..spontaneous. But I don't think you can be spontaneous playing anally? or can you?

I love dirty, messy, and hot sex...but I would rather not have a real "messy" moment with my boyfriend as he is either preparing me to try and take his 8.5 inch cock..or actually taking it. What do I need to do? My gay friends I know sometimes use enemas...but I don't think I can do that all the time...just in case?

Please help me if you can...

Use lube, go slow at the begin and relax.
Don't feel forced doing it or it will only hurt.

I've got to tell you, the idea of you being into trying anal (rather than just doing it for him) is so fucking hot. It makes me want to be the one ot break you in.

Some of the gay men may have better advice, but as far as I'm concerned, anal sex isn't really something that's set up for a spontaneous. It takes some preparation.

While enemas may be the best thing, you can try glycerin suppositories for an easier, neater experience. Put a couple in. Wait 45 minutes. Use the bathroom. Repeat the process.

As far as getting in, relax. Start with a finger then two. Take it slow and use lots of lube Have him slip in an inch and take it all the way out. Put in two inches and then all the way out. You'll get used to it, especially when you see the look on his face.

Have fun.

Thanks Eastbay...that is very good advice. I will try that... And also, thanks for the invite..but I think my boyfriend wouldn't agree.

I've started a thread a few weeks ago about that: ' Taking It Up The Ass ', and, although I'm a guy, there are some GOOD advice there. lube, fingering, cleaningness, and RELAXATION!

thank you so much! Has any of that advice helped you out?

Great thread, answered some questions I had myself.

there are 3 things you'll need for anal sex

condoms, lube and time

NOT so much, cause, due to the fact I'm single, and not much into that 'ONE-NIGHT-STAND' thing, it's been hard finding a partner to help me with it...
ANY VOLUNTEERS?

Anal needs a little bit of planning and is not as spontaneous as conventional sex, or it can be rather messy as you say.
An enema is probably the only way you willl be truly clean but not essential. Best to make sure you get rid of any waste matter at least an hour or so before, and have a good soapy shower (inserting a soapy finger and having a good squidge around) then rinse well with clean water.

As recommended plenty of lube is a must, and you might be best with him using his fingers and maybe a small dildo to get you relaxed and used to being stretched. At nearly 9 inches he will have to be patient and go real slow to start.

Good luck and have a wonderful time.

Not only is a good, thorough wash-out vital, but you need to allow yourself time to "dry out": trust me on this. As much as I love fucking ass (and I do so love fucking ass), all it takes is one last squirt or leak and I'm done.

As far as foreplay goes, I'd say the longer the better, especially for a newbie. By longer I mean 30-45 minutes at least. Getting yourself ready is nothing to rush into. Analingus (anal/oral contact) is a requirement.

Not every bottom enjoys fingering as part of the opening-up process, no matter how gentle the top can try and be. You might have better luck with a soft, very pliable dildo: it's not so insistent as a finger or two (or three or four )

I have to admit that I've only had vaginal sex with women, never anal. But I have 30+ years experience fucking men, and I've noticed that as many bottoms respond to the pleasure they're deriving with their ass alone as with their ass and penis in combination: they focus on their ass at the exclusion of their penis.

You might be similarly wired, or maybe not. But I would like to at least suggest that you not focus unduly on your clitoris when getting fucked in the ass, at least not at first. Men have "assgasms", and so might you.

I'll also suggest that some lubes are better for anal sex than others. Superpremium lubes are silicone based, like Gun Oil or Eros. They are silky and smooth and thicker than baby oil but not as thick as KY. They also are the only condom-friendly lube that stays wet indefinitely. But it is extremely expensive.

If condoms are not an issue for you, then I'd recommend Elbow Grease, which is odorless, stays wet forever, and has the consistency of cold cream. It is by far my preferred lube.

Crisco, BTW, is flawless and inexpensive. But don't keep an open can in the nightstand for more than a week or so. It can attract bacteria.

Good luck and have fun.

Thank you Bbucko! We have discussed how to warm me up for him..and to be honest I'm not so nervous about that. More nervous about being a messy affair. I wish I could get over that....so I guess what you mean by "drying out" is that after a enema...make sure that all is out of there?

*waving my hand in the air* "Oh, pick me, pick me!!"
I will be ready and patient anytime.

Pin-up Beauty, I think you can usually give yourself a decent cleaning in the shower with soap and water after a visit to the toilet. The guys I have been with told me that's how they prep. And yeah, your bf is lucky.

If 220483 turns down my offer, maybe you guys will let Eastbaydude (himself quite a looker) and I watch.... ;)

The colon is highly absorptive. The water would be absorbed back into your bloodstream. That is why stool is not normally loose.

I never turn down a waving hand in the air... CUM and visit! 'we're open TILL late'... :P