What does "Non-Homophobic" mean?

Does it mean "curious".

The reason I ask is that I'm married and we have been having sex with another married couple (guess that makes us "swingers"). It was good that neither of us were homophobic and had no problems when we touched (even intimately) each other whilst having sex with the girls.

I was talking on Skype with the other guy and he said how excited his wife was when having sex with me (us).

He then wnet on to say "with your cock, I'm not surprised".

I thought it best to say something nice about his equipment so he didn't feel I was more special or better than he.

Before I knew it, we were both complimenting each other's dick.

Next, we were saying that (if female) how we would find each others cock attractive.

Then we got onto if we were gay or Bi-sexual we would like to play with each others dick.

To cut a long story short......

Now we've progressed to me and him considering having a "one-off" playtime with each other - without the girls. Just me and him stroking and maybe sucking each other (but who knows what else might happen - lol).

Is "non-homophobic" another way of saying "Ask me. I just might"

sounds like fun to me man...... go for it

Hmmm, it's a good question.

I would class myself as non-homophobic in that although 100% straight, I do not have a problem with other guys being gay, in the same way I hope they appreciate that I'm straight.

I'm comfortable and confident enough in my sexuality that I don't have to give it all the macho bullshit and can look at another guy and say he's got a big cock.

However given what you've said further down about a no girls playtime, I think he's curious.

Trouble is I'm not homophobic but I'm MORE than curious.

But I'm not gay (or am I?).

dude....sexuality is fluid...and in my book, unless you have loving romantic feelings for another man, then you're not gay. Sex is sex man.....if it feels good do it.

I think this is a confusing word. I thought homophobia meant fear of gay people, so non-homophobia means the opposite. What if you just like everyone? I mean, you don't discriminate about people's sexual orientation at all, however they define themselves? Also if you like some guys who aren't necessarily gay, does that mean you're non-heterophobic? lol.

Who cares what you call it? Have fun. But don't keep secrets from the one you love. Maybe she and his wife could..

Good point.

But I had no other way of asking the question.

Homo-tolerant or something is just another level of beaurocrisy.

Seems you have to be Gay, Bi or homophobic.

I know there are other shades of grey as do you, but how else could I have put it?

They already do....LOL

Why is that so more acceptable?

We and they have fun with them having fun, but if we (the guys) did likewise it would be nowhere near as acceptabe - let alone erotic to them.

I wish I knew why it isn't acceptable. Maybe the wives will grow more non-homophobic in time. Not that you two are..
Not that there's anything wrong with..
Never mind.

I am non-heterophobic. Why should I have to fear straight people for?

I am not out there pushing myself on a straight guy. EVEN THOUGH...there are some hot looking straight men. I CAN LOOK but I am not touching. It isn't consensual. And the men love the women. And I can take a picture.
Hehehe.

I'm still trying to figure out how "non-homophobic" entered the conversation. Non-homophobic would mean, to me, that you have no problems with gay people. If you want to say that you are curious or open, you could use the popular "trisexual"--you'll try anything once. That's always said to me, I'm not going to hold onto a particular label at all but if I'm in the mood and the circumstances are right, I'll enjoy myself with who ever tickles my fancy.

I see where you're coming from, but the word "trisexular" doesn't come up in everyday converstion.

Gay, straight, bi-crious and homophobic do come up in everyday conversation.

Maybe we need another word for "trisexular" cuz it seems to fit the bill, but it's not very user-friendly.

Maybe "Homotol" (homesexually tolllerant) or something similar.

Tri-sexual sounds a bit pervie, to me.

All I know is that I'm obviously not wholly heterosexual, cuz I can't wait to get up close and personal with my friend's cock - even though I'd object to being called bi-sexual. Cuz I'm not. it's just his cock I want to play with - not just anyone's cock.

trisexual... Chuckle... I like that!

Then you shouldn't do it, just keep the fantasy alive online if you must.

[quote=STD;1482297]Does it mean "curious". The reason I ask is that I'm married and we have been having sex with another married couple (guess that makes us "swingers"). It was good that neither of us were homophobic and had no problems when we touched (even intimately) each other whilst having sex with the girls.

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Now we've progressed to me and him considering having a "one-off" playtime with each other - without the girls. Just me and him stroking and maybe sucking each other (but who knows what else might happen - lol).

I don't see a problem with you two experimenting. Doing it with out the knowledge and permission of both wives is a big issue. I am not saying that because you are both men. If you decided to hook up with his wife and not tell your respective spouses I would still feel the same way. It's the secrecy part that does not bode well in this situation.

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Is "non-homophobic" another way of saying "Ask me. I just might"

No, it is not.

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I see where you're coming form, but the word "trisexular" doesn't come up in everyday converstion.

True, and trisexular sounds slutty, not experimental.

Maybe we need another word for "trisexular" cuz it seems to fit the bill, but it's not very user-friendly.

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Maybe "Homotol" (homesexually tollerant) or something similar.

Homotol is too close to troll. You could try the up and coming "pansexual." I'm not fond of it, because no one seems able to decide on one finite definition for it.