Great things about Gay life

The connection you guys talk about is something I've experienced while traveling. People have been so kind to me and helped make visiting and living in other countries so much easier and I'm so happy have gay people in my life.

I'm pretty sure that my observation skills were a result of my being outside of the normative heterosexual scene. I learned a lot about romantic and friendly relationships and how people act within and in between them because, I think, of that fact that I knew I was different and not possessive of similar feelings. Many of the crushes I've known have been ones I knew I couldn't act on, whether it was because I restricted myself or it seemed like the other person didn't consider themselves to be slightly curious. I've experienced generally things that very few others have.

But it can be said for anything that there are positive and negative consequences. Also, I have to say that many of the positives listed by the OP could be said of straight, bisexual, gay, transsexual, pansexual, asexual people anyway. And can someone please explain to me what "gay life" is? Because I can't imagine a lifestyle where gayness permeated every single decision, action, environmental condition, and other things that make up a lifestyle.

I can say that I've met the most amazing people here in the USA and in Europe just through finding other gay men. I know I wouldn't have been able to meet many of the men I've met without having been gay myself. Being a Jew in Paris, not knowing that I would have Arab guys who were interested in me, was an amazing experience. I met Tunisian, Algerian, Moroccan, and Lebonese men with whom I've had some of the most tender and intellectual experiences and cultural exchanges. I truly believe that if Middle Eastern leaders were to leave relations up to we gay Jews and Arabs, that we'd have peace within a month, perhaps less.

In the USA I've met men of all stripes with whom I've been able to share not just sexual intimacy, but spiritual intimacy. I think that heterosexual men have a difficult time meeting on an intimate level (and I'm not talking about sexual intimacy) for fear of coming off as gay. I don't have to worry about that. I've also found, in the Bay Area, many delightful straight men with whom I've been able to be very intimate without being sexual. That's something that might be unique because I'm not sure they'd be the same with other straight men.

And my relationships with women are very different from that of straight men. I get to see parts of their world that many of them are afraid of showing their straight partners for fear of being judged, or rejected, etc.

I get to see a different perspective on life just through having a different sexual orientation from most men. I never would have thought about this before coming out the first time.

Anyway, it's a real trip.

And for me gay life is my life. And it includes most of everything everyone else does. On my gay agenda I have: laundry, housework, budgeting, paying bills, getting to work on time, remaining employed, maintaining friendships, dating, car maintenance, cat care, family relationships, travelling, cooking, grocery shopping, exercise, healthcare, going to the dentist (I just went today), psychotherapy, attending religious services, introspection, spiritual development, reading, creation of artwork, reading, studying, observing life, working with the homeless, etc.

One of the levels of experience, filters, whatever I have is my sexual orientation. It does color things for me in a different light, and yet I'm still engaged in what makes all of us human. So while my perspective might be a minority perspective, it's not unique and exclusive. Others can, and do understand it and even share it who do not share the same perspective.

Also, my "gay life"/"gay agenda" is also not universal to all gay men. We are as diverse as the rest of humanity... Hence, one of the best symbols for our community I think... the rainbow...