Do CUTE down-to-earth gay guys still exist?

Ah, Nick. I thought we were buds. I'm about as gay as you can get but I'm very down to earth. I totally disagree that that makes me boring, too. I just don't find drug-fucked, adolescent behaviour interesting. But I guess that makes me less interesting.

...but I'm still an awesome fuck!!!

This whole thread is so sad.

No doubt!! I'm still stuck on how a guy who generalizes an entire people group has the stones to call himself either down to earth or even cute??

I am not even going to try to justify what your girlfriend's cousin did or didn't do to you but one guy does not the entire gay culture define. As a member of the "no time to worry about being cute because I don't fit any gay stereotypes" subgroup, let me just say you really don't sound any different than the guy you are putting down. But it seems fairly obvious that the fact that you attribute it to his being gay or cute is just sour grapes on your part because you didn't get to first base with him. Admit it.

That's what I was hinting at. On a regular basis, I see people who get offended when someone treats them the way they treat so many others.

The thread title would seem to indicate that the OP is rather shallow; getting a taste of it from the other side isn't that fun, eh?

You are making sweeping generalizations woogexx. Her cousin and those other guys might be involved in current relationships and don't want you chatting them up. Just as you pursue guys you perceive to be cute, you may not be attractive to them. If you want guys who are down to earth then make that factor your dating criterion instead of bemoaning the existence of people who lack good looks.

Dream on, Bozo!

You are totally full of shit! Since when is extending your hand for a polite shake a request for a date or sex? It used to be called having good manners.

Even if the other guy is in a relationship, what is the harm in him at least being polite? Maybe if the atmosphere were a little more relaxed in gay bars they would be more fun. What's wrong with just being friendly and social? That's why these guys are so uptight -- they assume it's always about fucking!

\I got it, E-man, but I don't think RedBoy did.

Or at least I hope I got it.

okay DC DEEP; that's totally fair. I thought I might come off as a dumbass if he was indeed being sarcastic, but it's not clear to me that he was.

My apologies E-man, if that was the case.

Originally Posted by RedBoy2 http://www.lpsg.org/images36/buttons/viewpost.gif
Dream on, Bozo!

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Originally Posted by E-man http://www.lpsg.org/images36/buttons/viewpost.gif
Us Cali guys are all Ambercrombie models on our off time. My life is too much like The Hills for me to come off my pedastal and shake anybody's hand. Duh

Well, you and dreamer were both right in these posts. A handshake during introductions is indeed good manners. And the atmosphere could indeed use a bit of chillin'. But dreamer made a good point: judging from the story in the OP, and the way in which it was presented, it did sound like the OP was wanting to make some moves. I'm just curious; if the 21-year-old cousin did look like the Hunchback, how much differently would the scene have played out?

The first and last lines tell a lot that's not expressed in words:

"I seem to be the most down to earth gay guy I know. And I don't look like the hunchback of norte dame either.

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It just seems any gay guy thats even relatively cute.....has a chip on their shoulder...."

Well, I can tell you from that that was not an uncommon experience...especially in California.

There's a whole ideal that's being passed around that says that it's okay to be a straight bitch of a man because that's what people expect out of a gay, but of course we know that that's not true. The way he acted was just because he's been allowed to act like that for some time and if enough people check him on his behaviour, he'll definitely think about the way he interacts with others.


Now, to your question.
There are alot of down to earth gay men who are attractive, but you won't find them where stereotypical gay men hang out.

Gay bars?-No.

Gay Clubs?-No.

Gay Bar/Clubs?-Again, no.

Mostly, the down-to-earth gays don't hang out where you'd expect them to because for the most part, they're more interested in meeting another down to earth person...so they go places where other down-to-earth people go.

Bookstores?-Maybe

Live events?-Sure

A bar?-...no. I said no to that already.

A park?-Unless they're cruising the park, yes.

It's almost as if the more down to earth guys aren't interested in meeting other guys who only share the fact that they're gay and attractive in common. They'd much rather be noticed for their personality or their character than what they look like. So you'll see them somewhere where the head matters more.

Here comes another way too broad generalization, but frequently cute gay guys who are downright rude and inconsiderate of others in social settings have virtually nothing else positive going in their lives. No education, no decent job, no real friends, no meaningful relationship, nada, except for looks.

We all run into a few of these guys--yes, even very cute guys do--but IMHO the vast majority of gays are just fairly normal people who treat others as they would want to be treated.

I exist... or at least I think I do?