Lot of guys here (not me sadly), have found that added lubrication can help but so too can foreplay. Here's how:
The vagina is best considered as a potential space. When a woman first becomes aroused the vagina balloons but then shrinks to fit whatever is inserted in it. That means big guys have to be particularly careful about fingering the vagina lest the vagina mistake it for a penis and, as it's programmed to do, shrink to fit. So you're making out, getting her nice and wet, and then you start stroking the vagina. Stroking is ok, but be careful with what you insert. If you have your fingers in then switch to your penis, the vagina goes, "OUCH! Where did THAT come from??"
There is of course, a corollary to this. When you're having fun with the foreplay, going down on her, etc. try using a dildo or vibrator slightly larger in girth than your penis. Make sure it's very well lubed and also make certain that it's the first thing approaching her vagina. Try to get a dildo or vibrator that has a narrow tip so you can gradually introduce it into the vaginal canal. You don't have to go far, just 2-3 inches. Play with it a bit and make the whole experience fun so she (and therefore her vagina) feel very relaxed. After a few minutes then introduce your penis. With luck, she should find that you actually don't feel so big compared to the vibrator and her vagina will be relaxed and primed for your penis. Don't forget to re-lube when you insert your penis. Lubrication, particularly the warming sort, even it seems she doesn't need it, can help a great deal in relieving soreness.
Good luck! |