Telling A Straight Guy Ur Interested In Him

Tardis 69

Some of the threads here about straight /gay/Bi Guys got me to thinking about the straight guy who i used to work with, Chris knew i was gay although it was not common knowledge at the time at work.

He used to ask the the other staff when i was due in, if i was late, where was i etc, he used to ring me if i was off work to tell me he was missing me we had such a great time, he used to cuddle me and hug me, say nicwe things etc and we just got so close.

I sent him a valentine card anonymously !!!!!, I Loved Him...........

Anyway 2 years later i could no longer contain my feelings, i did not want him to touch me, pick me up and hug me no longer, i was getting confused, he was married with four kids, a strong catholic man and i was struggling being with him.

I told him i was in love with him, my heart was beating fast etc then the quiet period, he looked at me, i expected a thump or whatever, he had tears in his eyes, he hugged me close, kissed me not in a sexual way and told me he was happy i had told him, he asked if i had sent him the valentine card i said yes, he said he had kept it as he thought it was me.

I left him then, he hugged me again and said to me "if everything was coasha, he would be the happiest man in the world. (still don't understand that comment ).
He phoned me later to see if i was okay and told me although he was straight and never thought about men, he could not understand why he felt like he did about me.
Anyway we did not pursue anything, but it was nice to have that understanding of how straight and gay men can have that relationship without sex and hurting anyone else.

sorry for the long intro, just wondered if any other guys straight or gay have had those feelings and told the other person concened ?.

HyperHulk

By "coasha", he means kosher, which means that everything is ok or fine. I think what he meant is, now that you've gotten that off your chest and see that he's not upset, as long as you guys stay friends, he's happy.

I've experienced what you've gone through and I think your story is an example of how that sometimes the love we feel for others is not about gay or straight, it's about individuals--the people we connect with. There are many people who fall in love who are outside the boxes we normally occupy. And that's why I think they 100% of anything is useless because there is so much variety to the world and so much potential love that there could be someone that you love who loves you and you would never expect it. I think the guy you liked felt something for you, but his own circumstances and the world he lives in wouldn't allow it to be anything that what it is, a close friendship. If you both were stranded on a desert island, than you both might have a chance together.

It's great to discover that love and even better to find that love when it can be returned the same way.

Nick4444

feel the same way about a mate that just got married ... never told him verbally, but it's obvious to everyone we work with, and he's the only fellow I've hugged in years ... pretty sure he knows

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Monster

I would never tell a "truely" straight man im interested in him, I wouldn't insult him.

goodwood

Well, this has never happened to me so I don't have any stories to relate, but if someone wonderful thought that highly enough of me to trust me and want to be with me, I would be flattered and wouldn't mind. I don't know what I could do about it but if they were cool then all right.

marleyisalegend

i think very highly of you goodwood *offers a hug*. plus ur dog is awesome (if that is ur dog in ur avatar)

......i don't wanna have to eat lettuce. those stupid bags of spring mix PISS ME OFF.....


i know you've taken to wearing your father's hand-me-down anger, but i wish that you wouldn't it's a few sizes too big and everyone can see it doesn't fit you, makes you look silly, hangs loose in all the wrong places, even if it does match your skin color.....

AZBiGuy

goodwood -

you need to avoid dark alleys and corners... because i will be lurking there waiting to molest you. :)

marleyisalegend

......i don't wanna have to eat lettuce. those stupid bags of spring mix PISS ME OFF.....


i know you've taken to wearing your father's hand-me-down anger, but i wish that you wouldn't it's a few sizes too big and everyone can see it doesn't fit you, makes you look silly, hangs loose in all the wrong places, even if it does match your skin color.....

njqt466

Why is that an insult?

Think_Kink

I don't think most normal people would take that as an insult at all. Maybe they would be a little embarrassed, but I'm sure they would find it more a compliment.

Beanie

done it once and ruined one of the best friendships i had at the time, never do it again. moral is: dont fall for straight guys!

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Tardis 69

Comments like that spoil what relationships people can have, like i said it was not about jumping on someone straight or converting a straight guy etc, it was about a higher level more than that, about trust, being comfortable, a straight guy can have a relationship not always sexual witha gay guy, "breaking barriers" destroying myths etc

Tardis 69

Thanks Goodwood, you are understanding where i am coming from.

AZBiGuy

Tardis -

I apologize for any offense taken to my remark. I have tossed a few flirty compliments goodwood's way in the past and meant it simply as a joke.

I really think your situation was very touching and heartfelt and it took great courage from you to share it. Please excuse my bad timing and bad taste for posting that reply. I didn't mean to demean your situation, honestly.

Hellboy0

I wouldn't think it an insult, Monster. Rather, a compliment. You might be thinking that it would bother the guy and I do understand why you wouldn't tell him for that reason. But liking someone for any reason is not an insult.

Telling him his dick is way too small for you, on the other hand, is definitely an insult!