Telling A Straight Guy Ur Interested In Him

Originally Posted by titan1968

Tardis, I think you did the right thing by telling your friend how you felt, and it took a lot of courage. Both of you understood that good relationships are built on trust. I hope things are still going well for both of you.

Although my situation was different from yours, I can understand how hard it was for both of you. I had known this bi guy (incredibly intelligent, charismatic and broad-minded) for a few years, and even though we lived oceans apart, we still managed to write and talk a lot and see each other whenever possible; we became very close. A few years ago, I realised that I truly loved him and that I had never been so happy. I let him know how I felt, which made him feel a little uncomfortable, and he responded by saying that he truly cared for me and would always be there for me. I tried never to bring the subject up again for fear of losing him (from then on whenever I wrote him I would use the euphemisms ''care for'' and ''missing'' instead of ''to love'' and ''needs to be close to...''). One evening last year, when we were together (I was in his home country), we had the opportunity to talk. Instead of telling him directly, I chose to tell him in a clumbsilly written letter. Unfortunately, nothing good came of it--it destroyed our relationship. In spite of this, I still love him (would accept him with open arms), but I know he feels pressured not to respond because of social mores.

Originally Posted by Northland

They also deserve the honesty of knowing why a person is constantly around them, acting odd or even in a jealous fashion when others come along and consume their time. Through the years I have had on two occasions fallen madly and foolishly in what resembles love with a married man. In both cases I let them know. They made clear that this was not the way they were and that was that. In the weeks which followed things were admittedly uncomfortable; but, in both cases, things eventually evolved into strong solid friendships. Had I not indicated my desires to them, there would have been no possibility of continuing a genuine friendship since an element of truth would always have been kept hidden away-which is fair to nobody.

Originally Posted by invisibleman

This is truly my honest take on this subject.

I don't bother with telling straight guys that I am interested in them. Why? They like women. Why am I wanting to make them feel uncomfortable revealing..."I am smitten with you?" I think that straight men deserve to be with the women they like.

I think that straight men shouldn't be put on a pedestal like that. Yeah, I am not saying that gay men shouldn't like who they like. After all, it is sexual desire. Because you like someone doesn't mean that they like you back. And gay men shouldn't get upset when those feelings aren't reciprocal.

Originally Posted by Northland

They also deserve the honesty of knowing why a person is constantly around them, acting odd or even in a jealous fashion when others come along and consume their time. Through the years I have had on two occasions fallen madly and foolishly in what resembles love with a married man. In both cases I let them know. They made clear that this was not the way they were and that was that. In the weeks which followed things were admittedly uncomfortable; but, in both cases, things eventually evolved into strong solid friendships. Had I not indicated my desires to them, there would have been no possibility of continuing a genuine friendship since an element of truth would always have been kept hidden away-which is fair to nobody.

Originally Posted by titan1968

Tardis, I think you did the right thing by telling your friend how you felt, and it took a lot of courage. <snip> I hope things are still going well for both of you.

A few years ago, I realised that I truly loved him and that I had never been so happy. I let him know how I felt, which made him feel a little uncomfortable, and he responded by saying that he truly cared for me and would always be there for me. I tried never to bring the subject up again for fear of losing him (from then on whenever I wrote him I would use the euphemisms ''care for'' and ''missing'' instead of ''to love'' and ''needs to be close to...''). One evening last year, when we were together (I was in his home country), we had the opportunity to talk. Unfortunately, nothing good came of it--it destroyed our relationship. In spite of this, I still love him (would accept him with open arms), but I know he feels pressured not to respond because of social mores.

Originally Posted by Beanie

done it once and ruined one of the best friendships i had at the time, never do it again. moral is: dont fall for straight guys!

Originally Posted by devildix

here here.

my straight best friend for more than 10 years and I ended up fooling around on a regular basis - jacking off and cocksucking. I was falling in love, he was "experimenting" and the moment I said I was interested in him he cut things off and we never spoke after that.

such a waste.

Originally Posted by HyperHulk

From my experiences, straight guys don't mind the physical so much, under the right circumstances, but if you shift the discussion to "relationship" it crosses a line for them.

Originally Posted by Nick4444

Originally Posted by HyperHulk

From my experiences, straight guys don't mind the physical so much, under the right circumstances, but if you shift the discussion to "relationship" it crosses a line for them.