Telling A Straight Guy Ur Interested In Him

Monster

Ill retract the word insult just for you hellboy

Hellboy0

Thank you, buddy. That was nice. Now come on over here for a big hug and a kiss on all your moist bits!

Tardis 69

Cheers mate for that, i may be touchy and defensive on this subject, maybe i should'nt have posted, just felt i needed to share with people Straight and gay who have been in similar situations, like i said it was'nt about trying to "convert" or conquer, it was just a understanding of a different type of relationship gays and straights can have together, have been with quite a few women and men in sexual relationships, but this experiance, feeling and understanding was on a different level, it was nice, different and had a different feel emotionally, i hate it when gay guys get tarnished with same brush to convert a straight guy, i hate it when straight guys think because your gay they can't hug you or even go for a pee with you incase you come onto them. This was a understanding a break through, we felt close to each other emotionaly and loving but not in a sexual way it strenghted what we had.

Sorry AZbiguy, for the length of this it is not aimed at you personaly, but thank you for your consideration, it means a lot.

Now I just hope this thread disappears , i feel quite embaressed lol

Monster

I'll take that and MORE.

AZBiGuy

Tardis -

There is nothing to feel ashamed about... You shared a personal story that is absolutely NOT uncommon for a lot of gay/bi guys.

I have often felt the way you do about straight guys in my life. For some reason the magnetism is there... and there's nothing that can be done about it. But you still get to enjoy the fact that your friendship has become closer because of the honesty.

I'm envious of what you did... there are several straight married male friends of mine that I'd like to fully express my feelings to.

goodwood

AZBi - LOL! I thought it was very funny what you said. I wasn't offended.
No worries!

invisibleman

This is truly my honest take on this subject.

I don't bother with telling straight guys that I am interested in them. Why? They like women. Why am I wanting to make them feel uncomfortable revealing..."I am smitten with you?" I think that straight men deserve to be with the women they like.

I think that straight men shouldn't be put on a pedestal like that. Yeah, I am not saying that gay men shouldn't like who they like. After all, it is sexual desire. Because you like someone doesn't mean that they like you back. And gay men shouldn't get upset when those feelings aren't reciprocal.

AZBiGuy

Good... because I'm still going to molest you. Repeatedly. And without guilt.

saxxa

I have had sex with "straight" men on occasion. First experience was freshman year of college when out hiking, my friend and I went skinny dipping. One thing led to another and it happened. We were caught by a few women in the group we were in. The said it looked really hot to watch two tall, well built golden gods going at it. It has always been a one time thing and is always serendipitous. I always thought there was something about me that provoked these sex-capades.
I also believe everyone is bisexual to some degree, but do not acknowledge it or act upon it because of religious reasons or social mores.

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Hellboy0

Greedy man!!! Hope you handle what I'm giving...WHAT AM I SAYIN'?! Bring it on, Monster-man...

Northland

They also deserve the honesty of knowing why a person is constantly around them, acting odd or even in a jealous fashion when others come along and consume their time. Through the years I have had on two occasions fallen madly and foolishly in what resembles love with a married man. In both cases I let them know. They made clear that this was not the way they were and that was that. In the weeks which followed things were admittedly uncomfortable; but, in both cases, things eventually evolved into strong solid friendships. Had I not indicated my desires to them, there would have been no possibility of continuing a genuine friendship since an element of truth would always have been kept hidden away-which is fair to nobody.

“Seek out that particular mental attribute which makes you feel most deeply and vitally alive, along with which comes the inner voice which says, ‘This is the real me,’ and when you have found that attitude, follow it.” -William James

titan1968

Tardis, I think you did the right thing by telling your friend how you felt, and it took a lot of courage. Both of you understood that good relationships are built on trust. I hope things are still going well for both of you.

Although my situation was different from yours, I can understand how hard it was for both of you. I had known this bi guy (incredibly intelligent, charismatic and broad-minded) for a few years, and even though we lived oceans apart, we still managed to write and talk a lot and see each other whenever possible; we became very close. A few years ago, I realised that I truly loved him and that I had never been so happy. I let him know how I felt, which made him feel a little uncomfortable, and he responded by saying that he truly cared for me and would always be there for me. I tried never to bring the subject up again for fear of losing him (from then on whenever I wrote him I would use the euphemisms ''care for'' and ''missing'' instead of ''to love'' and ''needs to be close to...''). One evening last year, when we were together (I was in his home country), we had the opportunity to talk. Instead of telling him directly, I chose to tell him in a clumbsilly written letter. Unfortunately, nothing good came of it--it destroyed our relationship. In spite of this, I still love him (would accept him with open arms), but I know he feels pressured not to respond because of social mores.

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rdeverox

Tell him.... I think it can be good if you do, because I believe that any person can fall in love at any time, with any body, and with any sex, whether their straight, gay, bi, or lez....

What's to love, unless your an immature little shit?

boynextdoorkpt

I don't care what is written about me so long as it isn't true.
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