"I want this person gone!" threads

[Monster]

Originally Posted by senor rubirosa

Lower left-hand corner of each post.
(Exclamation mark in gold diamond in black circle.)

Now that I know you know,

Fuck You!

Good morning Rubi.

[senor rubirosa]

Originally Posted by Drifterwood

I am thinking of the wider cases when people argue on this site, I admit.

If I start an argument with you, dear Rubi, and am deeply insulting, imo, anything you say either in retaliation or defense is mitigated by your right to defend yourself. We are not both equally guilty.

But this rule simply touches on where you can make your retaliation.

Originally Posted by Drifterwood

If someone is dumb enough to think they can bully someone else because they think they are a lot stronger, smarter etc, I think that there is some natural justice when they find out that the community will not tolerate their behaviour.

I agree, but that doesn't mean a new thread for that specific purpose should be tolerated.

Originally Posted by Drifterwood

I can think of many instances where threads could be construed to be harassment.

True enough, but the clearest of them ... those that from the opening post have the intention of attacking a member, and never mind the reason ... should be disallowed from the outset.

Actually, that sounds more emphatic than I wish to be.

But to set a policy of not allowing such threads is entirely justiable.

And that policy, once established, should be enforced consistently, as far as that's possible.

That's all I'm saying.

(And Drifter, I love any and all pain you send my way ... but you knew that.)

[Monster]

Originally Posted by Nick4444

now I'm really confused

can't find anything even closely resembling ....

ah, well! back to real life

I think txgirl might be confusing "marriage gone south" thread with the one that was closed, symphonic was abusive there also.

[faceking]

Originally Posted by kadtxgrl

Where's the post alert button? I was looking for something like that last night and I couldn't find anything that said post alert.

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[senor rubirosa]

Originally Posted by Monster

Now that I know you know,
Fuck You!
Good morning Rubi.

Ooooh.
We are awake now.
Good morning, Monst.
Enjoying your rounds?

[kadtxgrl]

Originally Posted by faceking

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Thanks faceking,

I definately won't forget where that is located. Pretty cool.

[Monster]

Originally Posted by senor rubirosa

Ooooh.
We are awake now.
Good morning, Monst.
Enjoying your rounds?

Especially when there are threads like this.

This site take's more turns than a june bug with his ass on fire.

I've said it before but, this site should be named "The Hung and the Breathless".

[senor rubirosa]

Originally Posted by Monster

This site take's more turns than a june bug with his ass on fire.

Playing with matches again?

Originally Posted by Monster

I've said it before but, this site should be named "The Hung and the Breathless".

"The Pneumatics and the Athsmatics"?
No?
(I tried ...)

[Drifterwood]

Originally Posted by senor rubirosa

But this rule simply touches on where you can make your retaliation.

(And Drifter, I love any and all pain you send my way ... but you knew that.)

A tear to your eye, Rubi

So when someone is abusive in Chat, it shouldn't be discussed elsewhere?

When someone is abusive via PM it shouldn't be discussed elsewhere?

[Monster]

Originally Posted by senor rubirosa

Playing with matches again?

Don't call the fire dept



"The Pneumatics and the Athsmatics"?
No?
(I tried ...)

Yes!
"As the Stomach Turns"?

[Mr. Snakey]

I think the best road to take in matters such as this is to hit the post alert button and get in touch with a mod. Give them a chance to respond. They have lives too. Since ive been here if i ever had a question or a problem logging in (or anything else) they have always gotten back to me. Even Rob E. They will respond if you give them a chance.

[Monster]

Originally Posted by Mr. Snakey

I think the best road to take in matters such as this is to hit the post alert button and get in touch with a mod. Give them a chance to respond. They have lives too. Since ive been here if i ever had a question or a problem logging in (or anything else) they have always gotten back to me. Even Rob E. They will respond if you give them a chance.

Nail on the head buddy but, sometimes I hit submit reply before I think, lol, Im trying though. The Mods have been very helpful to me also and thanks to them.

[senor rubirosa]

Originally Posted by Drifterwood

A tear to your eye, Rubi
So when someone is abusive in Chat, it shouldn't be discussed elsewhere?
When someone is abusive via PM it shouldn't be discussed elsewhere?

Okay, good points.
I mean when something happens in a thread, no ancillary thread should be started up in retaliation.
The original thread provides all the needed public exposure.
That wouldn't be true of things said in Chat (in which the train of remarks quickly disappears) or in PMs (which are seen only by the recipient).
(You must have been educated by Jesuits, or at least a Canadian or two.)

[Drifterwood]

Originally Posted by senor rubirosa

I mean when something happens in a thread, no ancillary thread should be started up in retaliation.

(You must have been educated by Jesuits, or at least a Canadian or two.)

I'm sure that Canadians have even more that they could teach me.

I could argue that DragonFly's thread was not about retaliation, there was plenty of that in the original thread.

It was rather a discussion potentially about the boundaries of personal abuse that are tolerable on this site. If we have that discussion, then names will be named as they are in the sticky PM thread in the women's section.

I thought the guy was going to calm down, but then he just seemed to lose it completely. Then he came back and started again (twice), so two definite violations.

I am absolutely not having a go at the Mods, but I think we should have the freedom of speech to express our views on other people's unacceptable behaviour. The case in point was clearly unacceptable.

If his case is Sub Judice, then so be it, but when the Mods have decided what they wish to do, then I believe we should be allowed to discuss it.

Finally, as in the freedom of the Press, I think it is in the Community's interest to have this type of abuse brought to the widest audience's attention.

[Gillette]

Originally Posted by Drifterwood

A tear to your eye, Rubi

So when someone is abusive in Chat, it shouldn't be discussed elsewhere?

When someone is abusive via PM it shouldn't be discussed elsewhere?

Chat - report it to a mod with screep capture- we can't just take your word for it. I did that once and it was a mistake.

PM - report/forward to a mod, preferably with screen capture

While I am in favour of the name and shame for things that would otherwise remain hidden this instance wasn't hidden.

When it happens in a thread it should be discussed in that thread.

Three hours prior to the start of the removed thread the OP was informed that; yes, the reports had reached us and had been merged to consolidate the evidence and objections, yes, I was making my own recommendation as we spoke, and yes, I would be leaving a comment to the objectionable poster in the original thread itself, which I did.

Three hour prior.
It wasn't started due to lack of moderator involvement or attention.

Apparently the actions visible didn't sit close enough to her desire for a quick kill so she started a thread dedicated to having him banned.

Four hours later I saw it and it's whopping two supporting posts and removed it.

Repeating my original post.
It's harassment. Don't do it.